September 2016 Community Education E-bulletin

8/31/2016

Welcome to the September 2016 edition of Hope House's Community Education E-bulletin!

TABLE OF CONTENTS:
1. New Support Group in Mauston
2. Join Our Team of Volunteers
3. "Suppporting Families Affected by Violence" Luncheon
4. Domestic Violence Awareness Month
5. Hope House Donation Needs
6. 2016 Rio Olympics
7. Sexual Assault
8. Domestic Violence

9. Children and Youth
10. Human Trafficking
11. Miscellaneous News
12. Local News
13. Parents' and Youth Service Providers' Section
14. Faith Communities' Section
15. Resources

New Support Group Starting in Mauston
Has domestic or sexual abuse touched your life in some way? Do you seek connections with supportive individuals who have similar life experiences as you? Hope House is starting a new support group at the Mile Bluff Medical Center, 2nd Floor Hess Conference Room, in Mauston. Group sessions will take place on the 1st and 3rd Wednesdays of the month from 6-7 pm. For more information, please contact Katie Fluger, Outreach Advocate, at 608-356-9123.

Please Join Our Team of Volunteers!
As seen pictured above, Carter is one of our volunteers who worked at our front desk once a week over the summer. Hope House’s most needed volunteers are ones like Carter who can work a minimum of one 4-hour shift between M-F 8 am and 4:30 pm and answer the phone, let people in and out of our secure facility, and accept donations. If interested in volunteering or interning at Hope House, please call 608-356-9123 or click here for more information.

Supporting Families Affected by Violence: A Community Resources Luncheon
Join us on October 11 from 11:30 am-1 pm at Trappers Turn in Wisconsin Dells to learn about resources available to families experiencing domestic violence and sexual assault:

Meet service providers
Learn more about critical resources
Find out how you can connect people in need to the right resources and
Enjoy lunch and networking.

We hope you will join us for lunch and will walk away with a richer range of resources to help the families you serve. Please order your ticket/register by clicking here. When you land on this page, click on the green TICKETS button and reserve your spot by September 30th to ensure a place at the October Luncheon. We look forward to seeing you there! Lunch will be provided and includes a clubhouse sandwich and pub chips.

Be sure to check out other Hope House events under our Upcoming Events page.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month
October is quickly approaching, and we're working with community partners to create radio PSAs, displays, and posters for our communities for Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM). We're also asking community members to wear purple on October 20 for #PurpleThursday as part of the National Network to End Domestic Violence's National Week of Action. Click here for more information.

Stay tuned to our Upcoming Events page for DVAM updates.

Hope House Donation Needs
Monetary donations are most needed. Individuals have the option of donating online. Please note that a portion of your online donation will go towards PayPal fees. Donations can be mailed to Hope House, P.O. Box 557, Baraboo, WI 53913. We also appreciate gas cards, gift cards (Walmart, Kwik Trip, Walgreens, Kohl’s), taxi vouchers from Baraboo Taxi, and used cell phones, iPods and iPads. Please note that we are not accepting stuffed animals/plush toys, used toys, clothes (except for new sweatshirts and sweatpants), shoes, used books, furniture, TVs, bar soap, hats, scarves or travel-size bottles of shampoo, conditioner, or body wash. Current needs include

Bathrooms: Liquid hand soap, Full-size bottles of shampoo and body wash and shaving cream, Toilet bowl cleaner, Toilet paper, Deodorant, Disposable razors, Small garbage cans with bags, Nail clippers, Cleaning supplies such as Lysol disinfecting spray, Windex, and floor cleaner, Clorox wipes, Hairspray, Bleach, Bathroom rugs
Kitchen: Coffee, Paper towels, Ziploc bags, Strainer/Colander, Silverware, Tupperware, Dishwasher soap, 13-Gallon garbage bags, Brush for cleaning bottles, Sip cups, Saran wrap, Aluminum foil
Food and Beverages: Cereal, Fruit juice, Meat, Fresh fruit and vegetables, Yogurt, Cheese, Canned soup, Snack items (crackers, granola bars, etc.), Eggs, Milk, Coffee
Laundry: Laundry detergent
Clothing for Women and Kids: New socks, New women’s underwear, New medium-large size pajamas, New sweatshirts and sweatpants,
Misc: Alarm clock, D batteries, Swiffer mop, New pillows, New full-sized fitted white sheets, Diapers (especially sizes 4-6) and pull-ups, Journals, Vacuum, Double stroller, Baby wipes, Band-Aids, Pocket-sized calendars, Baby bottles, Umbrellas, Exercise balls, Relaxation CDs, Baby thermometer, CD players, Regular light bulbs

Special Note about Travel-Size Items: We encourage those looking to donate travel-size items to donate them to the Backpack Project. The Backpack Project strives to provide Baraboo School District students who are financially challenged to enter the school doors on the first day ‘just like everyone else’ and to show these children the community supports and encourages them to learn and do their best. If interested in donating towards this project, please contact Becky Hovde at 608-963-8230 or hivebiz@centurytel.net.

News
2016 Rio Olympics

Dear Olympic Media: Do Better by Women Athletes: “I want you to remember that your work matters. Your words matter. Your editorial choices matter. Because my daughter is watching. My nephew is watching. Young people all over the country are watching. And when they see and hear that, even after a woman wins an Olympic medal, she is really just another famous person’s wife, they are learning about gender roles. When they see Michael Phelps receive medal after medal on a podium and they don’t see Simone Manuel live, standing on a podium, they are learning that women don’t matter as much, that their time in the moment of glory can wait, that their achievements are not as great”…Read more
Top 10 Most Sexist Things To Occur At The 2016 Rio Olympics So Far: “Nothing like the Olympics to remind the world how a woman can’t accomplish anything without either being compared to a man who does the same thing, being labeled as a ‘wife’ or ‘mother’ above anything else, or being blatantly patronized on national television”…Read more
An Olympic Gold Medalist Opens Up About Her Domestic Abuse: “‘He was my first love. I loved him. Even today, I am not telling my story to bash him. That’s not my goal. My goal is to raise awareness. Be careful when you ask a victim, 'Why don’t you just leave?' As a victim, you still want to protect your partner. And the more others try to bash them, the more you cling to them…I never attempted to fight back at all — I saw that as disrespectful. I just attempted to protect myself by holding my hands up...It was just a situation I had to get through. In my mind, if I didn’t fight back, it would be over sooner’”…Read more

Kayla Harrison Won Judo Gold for the USA. For Sexual Abuse Victims, Her Triumph Is Twofold: “For these women and other survivors of sexual abuse, 26-year-old judoka Kayla Harrison provides a glimmer of hope. The Olympic gold medalist won two national judo championships by age 15, all while training in Ohio under Daniel Doyle, a coach who sexually abused her from the time she was 13…Harrison is now a motivational speaker with a line of workout clothes branded with the word 'fearless.' Her Fearless Foundation is designing a program to help sexual-abuse survivors find healing and strength through judo practice”…Read more
A Blind Eye to Sex Abuse: How USA Gymnastics Failed to Report Cases: “Top executives at one of America’s most prominent Olympic organizations failed to alert authorities to many allegations of sexual abuse by coaches — relying on a policy that enabled predators to abuse gymnasts long after USA Gymnastics had received warnings”…Read more

Sexual Assault

Victim in New Hampshire Prep School ‘Senior Salute’ Case Speaks Out: “A female student at an elite prep school in New Hampshire who accused a male senior of rape in 2014 only for him to be convicted of misdemeanor charges revealed her identity on Tuesday in an interview with NBC, saying she hoped to support other victims by discussing the difficulties she has faced, including being shunned when she returned to the school...‘It’s been two years now since the whole ordeal, and I feel ready to stand up and own what happened to me and make sure other people, other girls and boys, don’t need to be ashamed, either,’”…Read more
Some Women Won’t ‘Ever Again’ Report a Rape in Baltimore: “Baltimore officers sometimes humiliated women who tried to report sexual assault, often failed to gather basic evidence, and disregarded some complaints filed by prostitutes. Some officers blamed victims or discouraged them from identifying their assailants, asking questions like, ‘Why are you messing that guy’s life up?’ And the culture seemed to extend to prosecutors, investigators found. In one email exchange, a prosecutor referred to a woman who had reported a sexual assault as a ‘conniving little whore’”…Read more…Read related article $1M Pledged to Help Baltimore Victims After Scathing Report and And People Ask Why Rape Victims Don’t Report To Police
UC Sexual Assault Victim: 'My life has been ruined': “In conclusion, the rapist CHOSE to ruin his life. But like the sexual assault itself, my life has been ruined without my consent”…Read more of the victim’s statement
No Prison For Colorado Student Who Raped Helpless Freshman: “Wilkerson, 22, convicted of sexual assault of a helpless victim and unlawful sexual contact, faced a possible prison sentence of four years to life for the March 2014 attack on the freshman woman. But a judge in Boulder, Colorado, on Wednesday sentenced him to two years on work release and 20 years’ probation”…Read more
18-Year-Old Athlete Charged With Rape Gets Probation So He Can Attend College: “If Becker meets the judge’s terms, the case will then be dismissed. Terms include staying drug and alcohol free, undergoing a sex offender evaluation and following any recommended treatment, staying away from the victims, and writing a letter of apology. Jail time would have been ‘appropriate and fair’ in the case, a spokesman for the Hampden District Attorney’s office told BuzzFeed News”…Read more
Asking for an Apology: “Students who say colleges have mishandled sexual assault complaints demand on social media that colleges #JustSaySorry. Colleges have long been hesitant to apologize, even when found to be at fault”…Read more
Judge In Stanford Sex Assault Case Will No Longer Hear Criminal Cases

Sexual Assault Survivors Shouldn’t Have to Leave the Hospital Wearing a Sheet: “What do they wear home from the hospital? If the facility doesn’t have a specialized sexual assault unit, it may not have clothing to provide—forcing them to leave in a hospital gown. Thankfully, activist organizations are stepping up to right this wrong”…Read more
Justice Isn’t Always Done for Child Sexual Abuse – I Know Firsthand: “If you look up his arrest record, it does show that he originally was charged with a felony for aggravated sexual battery. And his mug shot does turn up in an internet search. But he never was put on the sex offender registry, and he’s free to work with kids again…When Dodd told her school counselor about Youssefi, I hadn’t started taking gymnastics yet. If the prosecutor then had decided to charge Youssefi, maybe he never would have become my coach”…Read more
Stanford’s New Alcohol Policy Protects Campus Rapists: “It also echoes the June defense of Brock Turner, a Stanford freshman who blamed ‘party culture’ for his decision to sexual assault a fellow student and whose lenient sentence sent ripples of outrage across campus and the country. The policy does not apply to graduate students or staff events, insinuating that sexual assault is only a problem among younger students…Dauber said she thinks the ban on large bottles of alcohol on campus will actually put students in even more danger. ‘It’s going to drive it underground … and encourage this super quick consumption not in a public area,’”…Read more
Nate Parker and the Limits of Empathy: “‘The Birth of a Nation’ is being billed as an important movie — something we must see, a story that demands to be heard. I have not yet seen the movie, and now I won’t. Just as I cannot compartmentalize the various markers of my identity, I cannot value a movie, no matter how good or ‘important’ it might be, over the dignity of a woman whose story should be seen as just as important, a woman who is no longer alive to speak for herself, or benefit from any measure of justice. No amount of empathy could make that possible”…Read more

Domestic Violence

A 27-Year Police Veteran on Why Domestic Violence Calls Pose the Greatest Danger for Cops: “Domestic violence is about one person’s desire to control another. The police officer who arrives at the scene is taking away some of that control…And if you’re a police officer, you need to understand why victims stay, why they may not tell the same story later on that they initially told you…Victims may lie, they may go back to the person, but it doesn’t mean they’re liars. It doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate what you did. It just means they’re doing what they think is best for them in that moment”…Read more
Domestic Violence is a Workplace Issue: “What can you do to make sure your workplace is a safe space for those who are victims or survivors? You can be flexible, for starters. If you suspect or are certain that someone you work with is a victim of DV or IPV, cut them some slack. Even if they don't want to admit it themselves (it took me much longer than it should have to admit what was happening and even more time to work out the logistics of leaving). Give them time off if they need it, whether it's to nurse injuries or to go to court or to search for a shelter or a new apartment. You also can accommodate requests for varied working hours, or a different office space, or a new phone number or email address. You can make sure your security is tight so that an abuser can't get to them physically or virtually. And you can enshrine these policies in your code of conduct or your official workplace rules”…Read more
Lawyers Use Victim-Blaming Language in Domestic Violence Cases, Says Report: “The team was established in 2010 to review domestic-violence-related deaths and to make recommendations about how to prevent or reduce the likelihood of such deaths by improving the way they are examined in the judicial system. Their report found in some of the cases reviewed judicial staff ‘used mutualising language such as ‘volatile relationship’ or ‘stormy relationship’ to describe cases where a domestic violence abuser had a long history of using violence against the victim’. ‘Variations of this terminology were evident in a number of cases, and served to minimise perpetrator accountability for violent behaviours,’”…Read more
Video of Silicon Valley Mogul Kicking His Girlfriend 117 Times Could Send Him to Jail: “In a brilliant move, the district attorney’s office asked the judge if the video from the first case could be admitted to establish that the second assault was essentially a repeat offense. The judge ruled that it could. The prosecution also had a recording of the 911 call made by the second girlfriend. That and the video convinced the judge, who ruled on July 22 that Chahal had indeed violated his probation. The sentencing is set for Aug. 12, three years and one week after Chahal assaulted his first girlfriend”…Read more…Read related article: Tech Mogul Who Allegedly Hit and Kicked His Girlfriend 117 Times Sentenced to One Year in Prison

This Popular Female Wrestler Is Shattering The Silence Around The Domestic Abuse She Endured: “‘Women athletes, CEOs, those in power, we feel this pressure to be a role model to other women, to be strong, that we don’t want to let them know our struggle. I didn’t want to be known as a ‘victim.’ I was also trying to get on TV, so if I tell my story, would this mess up my career?’ And so she stayed quiet for a long time. But behind closed doors, Jade says the abuse was escalating”…Read more
Why We Should Be Talking More About Lindsay Lohan's Abuse Allegations: “Silence surrounding the topic of domestic abuse is not limited to the media. Women often choose to stay silent about the trauma they suffer at home for fear that speaking out will only make things worse. They fear they will be evicted from their homes, that they won't be believed, or that the abuse will turn fatal. Many women — Lohan even touched on this in her interview with The Daily Mail —believe that admitting they have an abusive partner is a reflection on their own character”…Read more
Amy Schumer Reveals Disturbing Extent of Abuse in New Memoir: “I was sure he was going to kill me”
Domestic Abuse Victims Suffer the Same Brain Injuries As Football Players: “And injuries from domestic abuse can result in brain damage in 60 percent of survivors, according to research published in the journal Family & Community Health. Researchers frequently choose to study football players or veterans over domestic abuse survivors; not knowing the lasting effects of concussions on survivors can make them more vulnerable to conditions like degenerative brain disease down the line”…Read more
The Hidden Impact Of Domestic Violence On The Gender Wage Gap: “The Power of Parity: Advancing Women’s Equality in the United States, finds that closing the wage gap could add up to $4.3 trillion annually to the GDP by 2025. But violence against women is one of the six factors impacting pay equity in the United States”…Read more

Children and Youth

Lesbian, Gay and Bi High School Students Face Staggering Amount of Violence: “LGB students are more likely to experience being physically forced to have sex (18% LGB vs. 5% heterosexual), sexual dating violence (23% LGB vs. 9% heterosexual), physical dating violence (18% LGB vs. 8% heterosexual) or being bullied at school or online (34% LGB vs. 19% heterosexual in school, 28% LGB vs. 14% heterosexual online)”…Read more…Read CDC Report

Human Trafficking

Demand Fuels Sex Trafficking along I-41: “‘It's just a matter of you're shuffled around so much and if you…have a trafficker that's using drugs and keeping you drugged up, you're not going to be orientated to your environment or where you're at,’ said Liz Hoffman, a sexual assault nurse at Aurora and a survivor of sex trafficking. ‘You're sent all over the place, to wherever the money is at.’ Moving around helps pimps evade law enforcement, and they may consider customers to be more affluent in the Fox Valley”…Read more…Read related article: State Leaders Unveil Poster Aimed at Raising Awareness about Human Trafficking
Schimel: Human Trafficking Tough Fight for State: “‘And this is going to be one of our toughest social services and criminal justice challenges.’ He said part of the problem is that traffickers do such extensive emotional manipulation of their victims. ‘Our biggest challenge is just getting victims to agree to be rescued,’ Schimel said. His comments come as City of Milwaukee officials are calling for more help addressing Milwaukee's human trafficking problems”…Read more
Homeless Women Are Being Exploited for Sex in Return for Shelter: “‘Homelessness and violence against women are inextricably linked,’ explains Maeve McGoldrick of the homeless charity Crisis. 2011 figures show 28 percent of homeless women have formed an unwanted sexual partnership, and 20 percent have engaged in sex work to get a roof over their heads. And many women become homeless in the first place as a result of sexual or domestic violence”…Read more

Miscellaneous News

End Abuse Partners with Wisconsin Air National Guard: “To better address violence against women in the military, the Wisconsin Air National Guard has recently stepped up to increase the number of victim advocates within its ranks. End Domestic Abuse Wisconsin has been a partner in this effort by providing expert training to these advocates as they learn to give emergency counseling, referrals, information and on-going support when a member of the Guard is assaulted”…Read more
Comment Sections Are Cesspools Of Rape Culture, Research Finds: “One-fourth of all online comments at the end of news articles about sexual assault and rape include victim-blaming statements, new research out of the University of Southern California shows. The study examined 52 articles and found that only one did not contain comments offering support for the accused perpetrator”…Read more
WHO Releases New Infographic on Elder Abuse: “WHO is launching a new infographic on the issue which highlights the magnitude of the problem and known prevention strategies”…View the infographic here

7 #RelationshipGoals You Should Really Want: Check out this Futures Without Violence blog post that shows what healthy relationships look like.

Local News

Juan Walker, 32, of Baraboo, charged with second-degree sexual assault of an intoxicated victim…Read more
Zacharie Bauer, 30, of Oxford, charged with repeated sexual assault of a 7-year-old girl…Read more
Brett Klawitter, 39, of North Freedom, who previously worked as a clinical substance abuse counselor for St. Clare Hospital in Baraboo, will serve 30 days in jail and two years on probation as part of a plea deal for sexually exploiting a patient…Read more
Raul Reynosa, 26, of Baraboo, arrested for striking a woman in the face several times with a loaded gun…Read more
Robert Frier, 59, who sexually assaulted two children in 1986 has been released from prison and will be living in the Baraboo area…Read more

Parents' and Youth Service Providers' Section

Get KnowBullying, the Free App from SAMHSA that Can Prevent Bullying: The app features include “Conversation Starters: Start easy, meaningful conversations with your children. Tips: Learn strategies to prevent bullying for ages 3—6, 7—13, and teens. Warning Signs: Recognize if your child is engaging in bullying, being bullied, or witnessing bullying. Reminders: Talk with your child when the time feels right: a quiet moment on the way to school or a game, during dinner, or relaxing outside. Social Media: Share successful strategies and useful advice via Facebook, Twitter, email, and text messages. Section for Educators: Prevent bullying in the classroom and support children who are being bullied”…Learn more
Everyday Magic: 16 Ways Adults Can Support Children Exposed to Violence and Trauma: Futures Without Violence’s “policy paper offers sixteen ways that adults can support children exposed to violence and trauma to heal and grow. These recommendations are for advocates, educators, and health care providers to help improve their response to children who have experienced violence or trauma”…Check out the guide here
Resources to Help Students Cope with Trauma: “We imagine that as school-based health professionals, you’re grappling with how to have difficult—but necessary—conversations about race, structural oppression, and inequity with your young patients. We reached out to our partners to assemble resources to lend you a hand in this endeavor”…Read more
New Article Outlines How School Nurses Can Help Teens Experiencing Digital Dating Abuse: ’Most importantly, school nurses can engage in conversations with students about digital dating abuse, safe Internet use and healthy relationships, letting students know that they can come to them if they encounter online or offline dating violence’”…Read more

Unity Day Together Against Bullying: On October 19, PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center invites you to wear orange as a "message of support, hope, and unity to show that we are together against bullying and united for kindness, acceptance and inclusion”…Learn more
Relationship Goals or Relationship No’s?: “I know this movie is fictional and it has a lot of extreme characters and situations. But, as we’ve talked about before, the messages we get from movies, music, television and ads can influence how we think and feel about our relationships. The relationship between Harley and the Joker may be romanticized in Suicide Squad, but abuse and manipulation are not #relationshipgoals. We think it’s important to think hard about the messages we’re getting and whether they’re healthy for us or not”…Read more
NetSmartz's New Elementary School Presentations: NetSmartz has released brand new interactive presentations for students in grades K-2 and 3-5, which allow presenters to engage more directly with students around important digital safety topics. Download them for free here.
Audrie & Daisy: New Film on Netflix on Sept 23: “Audrie & Daisy tells the story of two teenage girls who went to parties, drank alcohol, passed out, and were sexually assaulted by guys they thought were their friends. In the aftermath, both girls discovered that the crimes were documented on cell phones. Video and pictures were passed around. Their lives were changed forever.” “Check back for updates about our community outreach, coming soon. We are partnering with Futures Without Violence, SafeBAE, PAVE, Know Your IX, Women, Action, Media!, and The Audrie Pott Foundation to bring the film and the issues it addresses to communities across the country"...Learn more and watch the trailer here
Mix It Up Day on October 25: "A national campaign launched by Teaching Tolerance in 2002, Mix It Up at Lunch Day encourages students to identify, question and cross social boundaries. And we ask schools to participate on the last Tuesday in October each school year! In our surveys, students have identified the cafeteria as the place where divisions are most clearly drawn. So for just a day, we ask students to move out of their comfort zones and connect with someone new over lunch. It’s a simple act with profound implications. Studies have shown that interactions across group lines can help reduce prejudice. When students interact with those who are different from them, biases and misperceptions can fall away"...Read more

Faith Communities' Section
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM): Check out Faith Trust Institute’s website for a list of resources, webinars, articles, and more related to Domestic Violence Awareness Month for faith communities.

Resources
Futures Without Violence’s LGBTQ Intimate Partner Violence Materials: “The Caring Relationships, Healthy You safety cards and poster are survivor-centered tools that are useful conversation starters for health care providers who are doing universal education around healthy relationships and assessing for intimate partner violence. Because queer and trans people experience violence at similar, and in some instances higher, rates as heterosexual people, it is critical that health care and other providers ensure that their practice is culturally inclusive for queer and trans people and that they are talking to all of their patients about the effects that intimate partner violence can have on health”…Read more

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