November 2016 Community Education E-bulletin

10/31/2016

Welcome to the November 2016 edition of Hope House's Community Education E-bulletin!

TABLE OF CONTENTS:
1. Upcoming Stewards of Children Training
2. Hiring for Crisis Response Advocates
3. Empower Baraboo Advisory Committee
4. "Cutter" Performance
5. Donation Needs
6. Sexual Assault
7. Domestic Violence

8. Children & Youth
9. Miscellaneous News
10. Local News
11. Parents' & Youth Service Providers' Section
12. Faith Communities' Section
13. Resources

November 14 in New Lisbon: Free Stewards of Children Training
You're invited to a free Darkness to Light Stewards of Children sexual abuse prevention training for adults on Monday, November 14 from 4-6:30pm at the New Lisbon City Hall, 232 West Pleasant Street. Stewards of Children is the only evidence-based child sexual abuse prevention training proven effective in educating adults to prevent, recognize, and react responsibly to child sexual abuse. This training utilizes a video, workbook, and group discussion. Light refreshments will be provided. RSVPs greatly appreciated to Jess Kaehny, Community Education Program Manager of Hope House at jessicar@hopehousescw.org or 608-356-9123.

Crisis Response Advocates
Hope House is expanding services! We are accepting applications for 2nd and 3rd shift Crisis Response Advocates. Second shift is a full time position at 30-32 hours/week, plus benefits, working 3pm-Midnight with every other Sat/Sun/Mon off work. Hourly wage is $15.50-$18.50/hour depending on experience. Third shift is a full time position at 30-32 hours/week, plus benefits, working 11pm-8am with every other Sat/Sun/Mon off work. Hourly wage is $16.25-$19.25/hour depending on experience. If you know anyone that may be interested, please direct them here.

Upcoming Empower Baraboo Advisory Committee Meetings
The next Empower Baraboo Advisory Committee meeting will be held on Tuesday, November 15th from 6:15-7:15pm in the Baraboo High School library. We welcome all Baraboo area community members who are interested in helping to create a high school environment that is respectful, inclusive, and free of sexual harassment and assault. At this meeting, we will plan events that will engage students and staff throughout the high school community. Future meetings will also be held on the third Tuesday of each month at the same time and location: December 21st, January 17th, February 21st, March 21st, April 18th, May 16th. Questions can be directed to Prevention Project Coordinator Nola Pastor at preventcoord@hopehousescw.org or 608-356-9123.

TEENS N THEATER (TNT) Presents CUTTER on November 9 from 2:30-4 pm
A play dealing with the very real contemporary topic of self harm in the teen community
TNT, in partnership with the West Central Wisconsin Boys and Girls Club, will be premiering this play on Wednesday, November 9th in the Baraboo Civic Center gymnasium, located at 124 2nd Street in Baraboo. This performance is free and open to the public and will run from 2:30 to 4 pm. This group of courageous teens has joined together to tackle the difficult issues that face our kids on a daily basis in our ever growing complex world. Among other topics looked at by this ground breaking group are, bullying, divorce, sexual pressure, and group dynamics. TNT is bringing these issues out in the open in hopes of demonstrating better coping skills and having healing conversations. In an effort to promote this kind of dialogue, the teen actors will be facilitating a talk-back session after the show to discuss these issues and their impact on teens’ lives.

Hope House Donation Needs
Monetary donations are most needed. Individuals have the option of donating online. Please note that a portion of your online donation will go towards PayPal fees. Donations can be mailed to Hope House, P.O. Box 557, Baraboo, WI 53913. We also appreciate gas cards, gift cards (Walmart, Kwik Trip, Walgreens, Kohl’s), taxi vouchers from Baraboo Taxi, and used cell phones, iPods and iPads. Please note that we are not accepting stuffed animals/plush toys, used toys, clothes (except for new sweatshirts and sweatpants), shoes, used books, furniture, TVs, bar soap, hats, scarves or travel-size bottles of shampoo, conditioner, or body wash. Current needs include the following; our most needed items are bolded:

Bathrooms: Liquid hand soap, Full-size bottles of shampoo and conditioner, Full-size toothpaste and toothbrushes, Full-size bottles of body wash and shaving cream, Toilet bowl cleaner, Toilet paper, Deodorant, Disposable razors, Small garbage cans with bags, Nail clippers, Cleaning supplies such as Lysol disinfecting spray, Windex, and floor cleaner, Clorox wipes, Hairspray, Bleach, Bathroom rugs
Kitchen: Paper towels, Ziploc bags, 13-Gallon garbage bags, Coffee, Blender, Strainer/Colander, Silverware, Tupperware, Dishwasher soap, Brush for cleaning bottles, Sip cups, Saran wrap, Aluminum foil
Food and Beverages: Cereal, Fruit juice, Meat, Fresh fruit and vegetables, Yogurt, Cheese, Canned soup, Snack items (crackers, granola bars, etc.), Eggs, Milk, Coffee
Laundry: Laundry detergent
Clothing for Women and Kids: New socks, especially sizes 2T-4T, New women’s underwear, New medium-large size pajamas, New pajamas and clothes for kids 9-12 months, New sweatshirts and sweatpants
Misc: Markers and glue sticks, Alarm clock, D batteries, Swiffer mop, New pillows, New full-sized fitted white sheets, Diapers (especially size 5) and pull-ups, Journals, Vacuum, Double stroller, Baby wipes, Band-Aids, Pocket-sized calendars, Baby bottles, Umbrellas, Exercise balls, Relaxation CDs, Baby thermometer, CD players, Regular light bulbs

Special Note about Travel-Size Items: We encourage those looking to donate travel-size items to donate them to the Backpack Project. The Backpack Project strives to provide Baraboo School District students who are financially challenged to enter the school doors on the first day ‘just like everyone else’ and to show these children the community supports and encourages them to learn and do their best. If interested in donating towards this project, please contact Becky Hovde at 608-963-8230 or hivebiz@centurytel.net.

News

Sexual Assault

[Trigger Warning] After Misogynistic #TrumpTapes Leaked, Women are Sharing Stories of Their Sexual Assault: “Friday afternoon, leaked audio tape revealed Donald Trump in a crude, aggressive conversation that captured the Republican presidential nominee bragging that his celebrity status gave him special permission to grope and grab women as he pleased…some women online responded to the controversy by sharing their earliest memories of sexual assault. Author Kelly Oxford wrote, ‘Tweet me your first assaults. They aren't just stats. I'll go first: Old man on city bus grabs my 'pussy' and smiles at me, I'm 12’”…Read more
Activist Men React To ‘Locker Room Talk’: “‘You are seeing the harmful outcome of aspects of what men and boys are taught about manhood,’ Porter said. ‘That collective socialization creates unwritten rules that allow us to dismiss comments, jokes or behaviors that devalue women and girls, and through our silence, create the fertile ground where violence and discrimination against women can take root and flourish.’ Through this collective socialization, Porter says, men and boys are taught to define themselves by devaluing women and girls, often through phrases so ingrained in our culture we don’t give them a second thought: ‘You throw like a girl,’ ‘Man up,’”…Read more…Read related article: Pro Athletes Are Calling Out Trump For His So-Called “Locker Room Talk”
2 Additional Women Accuse Trump of Sexual Assault
A Cop Who’s Spent 30 Years Fighting Sexual Assault Explains Why Victims Often Wait to Come Forward: “‘Oftentimes [power and control are] purposefully leveraged during the assault and afterward, with things like, ‘Nobody is going to believe you, I’m an important person in the community,’ he says. Tremblay and I spoke Thursday afternoon about why women often wait long periods before reporting sexual assault, what law enforcement could do to better assist victims, and how the language the media uses can often disadvantaged victims”…Read more
Officer in Shooting That Sparked Milwaukee Riots Charged With Sexual Assault
A Doctor Who Treats Rape Survivors Seen As Nobel Peace Prize Contender: “45,482. That is the number of rape survivors treated by Dr. Denis Mukwege and his associates at Panzi Hospital between 1999 and 2015…‘What I'm doing really is not only to treat women — their body,’ says Mukwege, ‘[but] also to fight for their own right, to bring them to be autonomous, and, of course, to support them psychologically. And all of this is a process of healing so women can regain their dignity’”…Read more

6 Charts that Will Change How You Think about Sexual Assault in America
5 Women Accuse UW-Madison Student of Sexual Assault: “A University of Wisconsin-Madison student is accused of sexual assaulting five women and is facing at least 14 felony charges, including second-degree sexual assault and strangulation and suffocation. He has been suspended from the university. Alec Cook, 20, was first arrested this month for allegedly sexually assaulting a 20-year-old woman at his apartment on Oct. 12”…Read more
NSVRC Commends Congress, President Obama for Passage of Survivors’ Bill of Rights: “Not only does this bill set standards for preserving rape kit evidence in federal sexual assault cases, this bill sets a shining example of how the rights of sexual assault survivors should be prioritized in all states as well as in federal cases. It is imperative that states join the federal government in reforming the processes and systems that all too often re-victimize survivors who are seeking justice. We must eliminate systemic obstacles to reporting and holding individuals who cause harm accountable”…Read more
Nate Parker’s ‘Birth of a Nation’ Exploits My Sister All Over Again (Guest Column): “As her sister, the thing that pains me most of all is that in retelling the story of the Nat Turner slave revolt, they invented a rape scene. The rape of Turner’s wife is used as a reason to justify Turner’s rebellion. This is fiction. I find it creepy and perverse that Parker and Celestin would put a fictional rape at the center of their film, and that Parker would portray himself as a hero avenging that rape…as the trial transcripts have come out, I have been gratified to see so many people rally to defend my sister. I know she would feel honored, as she never got that level of support in life…I will wait for a true version of this story to be told — one that respects history and does not re-exploit my sister”…Read more

Domestic Violence

Another Shocking Domestic Violence Case Is Rocking the NFL: “The league knew that there was a history of domestic violence in the Brown household. NFL security even had to be called at the Pro Bowl when Molly, who was staying in a separate room with their children, had to deal with a drunk Josh Brown trying to knock down her hotel door. That Brown only received a one-game suspension instead of the mandatory six-game suspension for domestic violence is curious. The idea that the league and the Giants, all of whom employ their own team of investigators stocked with former FBI and Secret Service agents, did not know about the extent of Brown’s abusive behavior is absurd”…Read more
The Link Between Natural Disasters and Domestic Abuse: “This exposure is just one of the concerns at the intersection of disasters and domestic abuse. After disasters occur, there is often an uptick in domestic-violence incidents. Domestic-abuse experts say this is likely because batterers often have more access to their families, because they are not at work…‘It’s very, very tempting when an abuser says, ‘Oh my house didn’t flood, you can come here and stay,’ or ‘I told you that you couldn’t make it on your own,’ says Meeks. ‘The woman’s family and friends are probably telling her, ‘You should just go back to your husband, at least his house is dry’”…Read more
An Estimated 4.5 Million Women Have Been Bullied with Guns by Abusive Partners: “An estimated 4.5 million women in the U.S. have been bullied or coerced with a firearm by an intimate partner. Another 1 million have survived a gunshot wound or been shot at. Those are the central findings of the first systematic review on the nonfatal use of firearms in domestic violence. ‘There hasn’t been much research on guns and women in the first place,’ Susan Sorenson...‘What has been conducted tends to focus on women’s deaths. This research focuses on women’s lives’”…Read more…Read related article: My Ex-Husband Used His Guns to Terrorize Me — Without Once Pulling the Trigger

Bresha Meadows: Campaigners Want 15-Year-Old Accused of 'Shooting Dead Her Abusive Father' to Walk Free: “The campaign said that 15.5 million children in the US are exposed to domestic violence each year, and of those incarcerated for self-defence, a disproportionate number are black. ‘Criminalising Bresha in this context sends a harmful message to survivors and their children—that even in the most desperate of situations, they will be punished instead of helped,’ the petition read, which has gathered support under the twitter hashtag ‘#FreeBresha’. A GoFundMe page has also raised more than $37,000 to support Bresha and her family”…Read more…Learn what you can do to help
What Women Need To Know About Reproductive Coercion: “Reproductively coercive acts include threatening to leave unless the woman becomes pregnant, threatening to have a baby with someone else if she doesn’t comply, physically abusing a woman because she does not agree to pregnancy and tampering with birth control to deliberately cause pregnancy. Forcing a woman to either carry a pregnancy to term or have an abortion against her wishes also constitutes reproductive coercion. Birth control tampering and pregnancy coercion, in particular, is the focus of McCauley’s latest research. ‘The thing about reproductive coercion is that many women still don’t recognize this behavior as abuse,’”…Read more

Children and Youth

Could a Summer Camp Stop Kids from Repeating the Violence They Saw Growing Up?: “Camp activities are specifically designed to help kids build resilience — the ability to overcome adversity and trauma — and to increase hopefulness about the future, Gwinn said. While ‘hope’ sounds like a simple, feel-good emotion, it actually works as a powerful motivational system that can help individuals achieve goals. And, it can be measured. Chan Hellman, a researcher in hope theory at the University of Oklahoma, explained a person with ‘hope’ has the ability to create a mental roadmap to reach a goal, as well as the willpower needed to overcome obstacles as they arise. ‘Hope is the foundation of resiliency,’”…Read more
New Study Finds 15 Percent of 6th Graders Commit Cyber Abuse: “According to a new study, 15 percent of sixth-grade students report they have perpetrated at least one form of abuse toward a dating partner through technology…The most common forms of cyber dating abuse were using a dating partner’s social networking account without permission and making a dating partner afraid of not responding to their partner’s calls or messages”…Read more

Miscellaneous

Human Trafficking Survivors Share 5 Ways To Help End Practice: “On Tuesday, the U.S. government released its first-ever report on human trafficking written by survivors. In the document, 11 survivors of sex and labor trafficking, who were appointed by President Obama to the first U.S. Advisory Council on Human Trafficking in 2015, provide recommendations on how to improve federal trafficking policies ― ranging from legislation to public awareness campaigns to victims’ services”…Read more
Traffickers Likely To Prey On Kids In Haiti After Hurricane Matthew: Report: “Before Hurricane Matthew hit, underserved children in Haiti were at risk for human trafficking. The effects of the storm have now exacerbated those risks…Children of families who lost everything, and those who were separated from their parents, may get sold into forced labor and be subjected to other atrocities because they’re so vulnerable”…Read more
Facebook Relaunches Safety Center In 50 Languages To Curb Bullying And Promote Safe Sharing

If You Think Child Marriage Doesn’t Happen in the US, Think Again: “In fact, in most circumstances the young girls are not given the opportunity to freely express their wishes in private settings and away from their parents, where they can speak to a trained professional who is able to provide some guidance and assess the child’s genuine willingness. Unfortunately, most court clerks and public officials are not allowed to intervene. Laws that prevent forced marriage are limited to nine states, usually only apply to women, and exclusively prevent marriages in which a woman is married against her will. Due to the complicated nature of coercion, teenage pregnancies, and cultural values that may motivate a child marriage, it’s not always clear if a child has been ‘forced’”…Read more
Workers to Protest at McDonald's Stores across US over Sexual Harassment Claims: “Workers in more than 30 US cities are planning to join a lunchtime protest at their local McDonald’s stores on Thursday to draw attention to 15 different sexual complaints that have been filed against the company and its franchisees over the past month. The allegations, filed with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), claimed that in addition to experiencing sexual harassment on the job those who complained were often retaliated against”…Read more…Read related article: Workplace Sexual Harassment: A Threat To Victims, A Quandary For Bystanders

Local News

Stop Domestic Violence before It Begins: Check out Hope House’s Domestic Violence Awareness and Prevention Month letter to the editor
Volunteers help abused, neglected kids: Click here to read about the Sauk County CASA program
Allen D. Maslowski, 59, of Lyndon Station, is charged with strangulation and suffocation – domestic abuse, false imprisonment – domestic abuse, misdemeanor battery – domestic abuse and disorderly conduct – domestic abuse…Read more
A jury found Alex E. Stolte, 22, of Reedsburg, not guilty of two counts of felony second-degree sexual assault…Read more…Read related article: Man acquitted in rape trial can have charges erased
Kyle Reilly, 37, of Columbus, charged with sexual assault after an investigation by the Dodge County Sheriff’s Office revealed that while he was an intern for the Dodge County Human Services and Health department, he engaged in a sexual relationship with a client…Read more
Matthew R. Langdon, 20, of Racine, faces charges of strangulation and suffocation and misdemeanor battery – domestic abuse, while in Juneau County…Read more
Aldo Eder Ruiz Velazquez, 24, of Sauk City, will serve eight months in jail and the next two years on probation for raping a 16 year old girl…Read more

Parents' and Youth Service Providers' Section

Watch: Child Trauma Survivors Reunite With the Adults Who Made a Difference: “To help build awareness of the importance of adults in children's lives, the U.S. Department of Justice, the Ad Council, and Futures Without Violence have teamed up to launch a campaign called Changing Minds that features emotional videos of former students reuniting with the adults who helped anchor them through difficult childhood experiences. ‘The idea behind Changing Minds is that adults who regularly interact with children (teachers, coaches, guidance counselors, nurses, social workers, etc.) can reverse the negative impact that witnessing violence has on a child's brain and increase a child's chance of success through 'everyday gestures,' like comforting, listening, and collaborating with them,’”…Read more
The Conversation You Must Have With Your Kids Today: “Offensive, objectifying, and violent language is everywhere right now—you can’t turn on a TV or even sit at a coffee shop without hearing people discussing it. And although it’s a very adult topic, your kids are listening, watching how you respond, and taking it all in. They’re also having their own conversations about it with their peers. As with any sensitive topic, parents can and should tackle the subject with their kids directly…Here are a few ways you can tackle the topic and give your kids the skills to stand up against sexist, objectifying language and behavior”…Read more
Common Sense Media's Updated Cyberbullying Toolkit: "Explore our free and updated Cyberbullying Prevention Tool Kit to find lesson plans, student activities, and additional resources that you can use to address digital drama before it happens"...Read more
The Cyberbullying Research Center is “dedicated to providing up-to-date information about the nature, extent, causes, and consequences of cyberbullying among adolescents…This web site serves as a clearinghouse of information concerning the ways adolescents use and misuse technology. It is intended to be a resource for parents, educators, law enforcement officers, counselors, and others who work with youth. Here you will find facts, figures, and detailed stories from those who have been directly impacted by online aggression. In addition, the site includes numerous resources to help you prevent and respond to cyberbullying incidents”…Check it out
Safety Central App: The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children is "excited to announce the launch of a brand new safety app! Our app, Safety Central, is ideal for parents, law enforcement or anyone who is looking to stay up-to-date on the latest news, media and safety tips from NCMEC. Designed as a digital child ID kit that lets parents keep their children’s information right at their fingertips, this might be the most important app you ever download"...Read more
NetSmartz's New Spanish Resources: "Visit ES.NetSmartz.org to view our array of Spanish-language tips, games, presentations and more!"

Childhood Domestic Violence Association’s Change a Life Program: “Developed by the world’s leading researchers and endorsed by UNICEF and Children’s Mercy Hospitals, CHANGE A LIFE is the only free, evidence-based online program of its kind in the world. CHANGE A LIFE can teach you how to become The ONE for a child growing up with domestic violence – a caring adult who steps in and offers simple support and messages of hope that can foster a child’s resiliency and help change their life”…Learn more
Trauma-Sensitive Schools Learning Modules: “The Department of Public Instruction Trauma-Sensitive Schools (TSS) initiative is modeled after the Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports (PBIS) school improvement process, focusing first on universal practices (Tier 1)”…Watch now
Talking to Your Children about Sex: Stop It Now, a national organization working to end child sexual abuse, recently released their recommended list of online resources for parents about talking to your children about sex:
- "One of our favorites is Amy Lang's site, Birds+ Bees+ Kids. Her guidance and information is spot on, with humor and a focus on positive communication. We especially love her blog, where entries, such as, "Playing Doctor - Typical and common behaviors in kids and what to do!", provide some great tips on how to know when to respond to children's exploratory play. Check out her Facebook page also!
- The Mama Bear Effect is another wonderful resource and their blog is also a well-informed and thoughtful resource. Published monthly, it offers great topics such as "5 Ways We Confuse Children About Body Safety" to help parents more effectively communicate with their kids.
- Another great option is the Sex and Sensibility blog and, while the Parents' Sex Ed Center on Advocates for Youth isn't a blog, the articles are still wonderful resources."

Faith Communities' Section
Not In Our Town’s Faith Resources: “Communities of faith play a vital role in bringing people together. Whether it is healing and responding when a hate incident occurs or hosting interfaith dialogues to address an issue of inclusion, faith leaders and congregants are part of the solution. Here you will find short films, stories, and resources that show how interfaith communities can work together to prevent hate and intolerance while building safer, more inclusive towns”…Read more

Resources

US DOJ Launches ‘Safer Families, Safer Communities’ Website to Enforce Domestic Violence Firearm Prohibition: "The Office on Violence Against Women (OVW) announced the launch of the National Domestic Violence and Firearms Resource Center’s Safer Families, Safer Communities website. The website is a project of the newly-established resource center, designed to support the implementation and enforcement of domestic violence firearm prohibitions to reduce firearm-involved domestic violence and homicide. In order to address the challenges that communities face in responding to firearm-involved domestic violence, Safer Families, Safer Communities provides a comprehensive approach for attorneys, prosecutors, court personnel, judges, domestic violence service providers, law enforcement and communities at large. The website highlights the importance of an approach focused on addressing five key areas: criminal, civil, federal, purchase prevention and resources. All five areas are implicated in successfully enforcing firearms prohibitions and disarming domestic violence offenders who illegally possess firearms."

HOPELINE-24/7 Textline for Help: "HOPELINE, by the Center for Suicide Awareness, is a text-in (versus voice call-in) free service for help and hope. HOPELINE is the Emotional Support Text Line in the State of Wisconsin and provides service throughout the entire state. HOPELINE's purpose is to offer emotional support and resources before situations rise to crisis level. Texts received reflect struggles with breakups, job loss, bullying, LGBTQ issues, parental issues, school, friends, relationship issues or any struggle a person is experiencing"...Read more
Gender Based Violence and Intersecting Challenges Impacting Native American & Alaskan Village Communities: “The content of this collection has been selected to highlight areas of intersections impeding the safety of Native American families. Each section contains extremely unique impacts regarding sovereignty, policy, historical trauma and cultural impacts of cultural oppression or colonization. This collection is not meant to be a complete representation of all intersections of family or intimate partner violence, as it would be impossible to represent thousands of trauma-impacting factors; it is instead meant to provide a comprehensive collection of the most significant and researched resources on domestic violence and intersecting issues affecting Native and Alaskan Native people today”…Read the collection

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