Welcome to the December 2014 edition of Hope House's Community Education E-bulletin!
Hope House's Holiday Wish List
Around the holidays, people often ask what gift items they can donate to Hope House for the people we work with. Here is our holiday wish list:
- For Children and Teens: board games, arts and craft supplies, pajamas, slippers, jewelry, candy or chocolate, sports balls, winter outdoor toys and activities, gloves or mittens, socks, family-friendly DVDs and toys
- For Adults: area spa certificates, Walmart gift cards, gas cards, bathrobes, slippers, bath products, manicure/pedicure sets, coffee or tea, calendars or weekly planners, journals, gloves or mittens, socks and underwear
Please note that all items should be donated unwrapped. You may donate wrapping paper if you wish for parents to be able to wrap the presents for their children.
Hope House Donation Needs
Monetary donations are most needed. Individuals have the option of donating online. Please note that a portion of your online donation will go towards PayPal fees. Donations can be mailed to Hope House, P.O. Box 557, Baraboo, WI 53913. We also appreciate gas cards, gift cards (Walmart, Kwik Trip, Walgreens, Kohl’s), taxi vouchers from Baraboo Taxi, and used cell phones, iPods and iPads. Please note that we are not accepting stuffed animals, clothes (except for sweatshirts and sweatpants), shoes, TVs, bar soap, hats, scarves or travel-size bottles of shampoo, conditioner, or body wash. Current needs include
Special Note about Travel-Size Items: We encourage those looking to donate travel-size items to donate them to the Backpack Project. The Backpack Project strives to provide Baraboo School District students who are financially challenged to enter the school doors on the first day ‘just like everyone else’ and to show these children the community supports and encourages them to learn and do their best. If interested in donating towards this project, please contact Becky Hovde at 608-963-8230 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
High School Students Re-Writing Unhealthy Lyrics
One of the presentations that Hope House offers for teens involves analyzing song lyrics for healthy and unhealthy messages about relationships. Students then take lyrics that are unhealthy and re-write them into a more positive message about relationships. Below are a few examples of what students recently wrote during a presentation to the Portage High School Sophomore English classes and the Montello High School health class.
Faith Communities' Section
- 16 Days: From Peaceful Homes to a Peaceful World: The Faith Trust Institute is releasing a blog post for each day during the 16 Days of Activism to End Gender-Based Violence. The first post comes from Rev. Marie Fortune: “‘From Peaceful Homes to a Peaceful World’ is the theme of 16 Days. Take a moment to reflect on where we would be if the vibrant, curious girls of the world had been able to develop and grow as God intended. Imagine the things they could have accomplished had they been spared their suffering. Celebrate the amazing things we have accomplished, despite it all”...Read more
- 16 Days of Activism Resources: The ‘We Will Speak Out’ International Coalition has produced its first resource specific to the 16 days of activism against gender-based violence. The resource for prayer, reflection and action during the 16 days is available for use by individuals, churches and communities.
- Human Trafficking: Trafficking is Modern Day Slavery. It Ruins Lives. The Church Must Act: “‘The church cannot ignore this issue. We cannot be silent or pretend that this issue is not affecting our daughters, our sisters, our families and the most vulnerable of God’s children. We must begin to pay attention. Lives are at stake. Our churches cannot be silent. We are called to act,' said the Rev. Laura Easto"...Read more
- Faith Leaders for Healthy Relationships Luncheons: Thanks to everyone that participated in the QPR Suicide Prevention luncheons on Nov. 12 and 19 in Baraboo and Wisconsin Dells. Debbie Millman and Liesa Zastrow from Columbia County Human Services trained over 50 people on recognizing the signs of suicide and on how to question, persuade, and refer someone to help. More information about the next luncheon in late January coming soon!
- See the Signs: "The Ohio Domestic Violence Network and the Ohio Alliance to End Sexual Violence are proud to announce the launch of this new bystander training program focused on employers and employees. Two other projects were funded: The New York Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children, focusing on children; and JWI, focusing on teens." Click here to see the training courses.
- SAMHSA's Concept of Trauma and Guidance for a Trauma-Informed Approach: This publication "introduces a concept of trauma and offers a framework for how an organization, system, service sector can become trauma-informed. Includes a definition of trauma (the three 'E's'), a definition of a trauma-informed approach (the four 'R's'), 6 key principles, and 10 implementation domains."
- OVC's Human Trafficking Website: "The Office for Victims of Crime (OVC) has launched its new mobile-friendly human trafficking Web site, which contains a wide range of information including resources and research from the Federal Government, publications and products from OVC, local and national direct assistance information, and related funding opportunities for victims and survivors of human trafficking, victim service providers, law enforcement, and allied professionals."
Recently there has been increased media attention on the issue of domestic violence. Baltimore Ravens’ Ray Rice was caught by a security camera knocking his then-fiancé unconscious. Other NFL cases making the news lately include Minnesota Vikings’ Adrian Peterson indicted for child abuse and Carolina Panthers’ Greg Hardy and New York Jets’ Quincy Enunwa arrested for domestic violence.
As the local domestic violence and sexual assault center, Hope House knows all too well that domestic violence happens year round, and it happens in our communities. From October 2013 to September 2014, we provided support and resources during over 3,800 calls to our helpline. Individuals and families stayed in our shelter for 5,332 nights. We provided counseling and advocacy to 1,141 survivors of domestic violence, and just this year, we’ve helped 421 survivors of sexual assault. We know many more survivors are suffering in silence.
The benefit of the NFL cases in the national spotlight is that more people are talking about domestic violence. NFL players themselves are speaking out. Green Bay Packers’ Clay Matthews spoke at a news conference on preventing domestic violence, and Jordy Nelson has been featured in a domestic violence PSA. Pittsburgh Steelers’ William Gay shared his story of his stepdad killing his mom. Seattle Seahawks’ Russell Wilson introduced the “Pass the Peace” campaign to raise funds for the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Before the Ravens-Steelers game, CBS Sportscaster James Brown gave a speech on men getting involved with preventing domestic violence.
Others are speaking out on social media. After people questioned why Janay married Ray Rice after the assault, many survivors came forward with their stories on Twitter with #WhyIStayed. Survivors shared the many barriers that kept them in abusive relationships, including lack of finances, fear their kids will get hurt or taken away, lack of support from others, being told it’s a sin to leave, loving the partner and believing they will change, and fear they will get hurt worse or killed.
End Domestic Abuse Wisconsin recently released their 2013 homicide report. They found that 55 people in Wisconsin were killed as a result of domestic violence. Many of these cases were when the victim was leaving or left the relationship. Thus we know that leaving is a dangerous time, which is why safety planning is such a big part of what Hope House offers to survivors.
Another Hope House service is presentations to children and teens. From October 2013 to September 2014, we gave 347 presentations to youth on topics related to healthy and abusive relationships. Since the start of this school year, several students have brought up the Ray Rice case. We need to utilize this teachable moment. We need to role model and educate youth on their rights and responsibilities for respectful, trusting, and supportive relationships.
If you would like resources for Domestic Violence Awareness Month, please check out our new website: www.HopeHouseSCW.org. If you or someone you know is experiencing or has experienced abuse, please call our 24-hour helpline at 1-800-584-6790.
Jess Kaehny, Community Education Coordinator, Hope House of South Central Wisconsin