Category: Dating Violence

Lantern Lit on 4/8/16-4/15/16 for Kristina Knopp & Chad Mayes

4/8/2016

Lantern Project: Since October 2013, Hope House has joined with other domestic violence programs around the state by implementing the Lantern Project. For our part in this statewide project, we added to the lamppost in front of Hope House a purple wreath. We will turn on the light for a week every time there is a death related to domestic violence in Wisconsin. We will post information online about the person(s) that was killed. If you drive by our building and see our lamppost on, please reflect on the deadly impact that domestic violence has on our communities. We know the list of stories we post here is incomplete. We strive to learn about and share these stories but know that there are some that we and the media miss. If you see a news story of a death in WI related to domestic violence and don't see it posted here, please feel free to let us know about it here. Thank you.

Kristina Knopp

Obituary: "Kristina Irene Knopp, 20, of Medford, went home to be with her Lord, Wednesday March 23, 2016. Kristina was born June 12, 1995, in Novocheboksarsk, Russia.

When Kristina was 13, she was adopted by the Knopp Family, who brought her to the United States on May 6, 2009. She was a 2013 graduate of Abbotsford Christian Academy, where she will be remembered as a fierce competitor who played basketball and volleyball. Kristina was currently an employee of Phillips Medisize, having previously worked at Northland Outlet and Arbys in Medford.

Kristina was a free spirit and a true “people person.” She loved to be surrounded with friends, family and especially little children. Her personality lit up a room, and she never knew a stranger. Kristina could see the good in everyone, and was extremely generous through her gift giving. Through her heart for children and generosity, Kristina helped start two schools for underprivileged children overseas. Kristina attended Abbotsford Evangelical Free Church where she helped in Sunday School, Nursery and the One Way Club, and was a member of L.I.F.T Youth Group"...Read more

News Story: "A Medford man who shot and killed his girlfriend and then himself last week was a Marine Corps veteran who served in Iraq and still was married to another woman, according to court documents.

Kristina Irene Knopp, 23, died after being shot by Chad K. Mayes, 27, who then killed himself, according to police.

Knopp's parents found Knopp and Mayes dead Thursday evening inside her apartment in Medford and called 911 around 7:40 p.m., according to court documents. Medford is a city in Taylor County more than 30 miles north of Marshfield"...Read more

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January 2016 Community Education E-bulletin

1/5/2016

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Welcome to the January 2016 edition of Hope House's Community Education E-bulletin!

TABLE OF CONTENTS:
1. Baraboo High School T-Shirt Design Competition
2. Hope House Donation Needs
3. Sexual Assault
4. Domestic Violence
5. Miscellaneous News
6. Local News
7. Parents' and Youth Service Providers' Section
8. Faith Communities' Section

Baraboo High School T-Shirt Design Competition
The Advisory Committee for Hope House's Rape Prevention Education sub-grant is planning a design competition at Baraboo High School (BHS)! Throughout February, Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month, BHS students can submit original artwork that celebrates a culture of consent and emphasizes the importance of respect in relationships. The top design will be printed on t-shirts so students and community members can wear their support! “Like” Hope House's Facebook page to stay updated and see sneak previews of submitted designs.

Hope House Donation Needs
Monetary donations are most needed. Individuals have the option of donating online. Please note that a portion of your online donation will go towards PayPal fees. Donations can be mailed to Hope House, P.O. Box 557, Baraboo, WI 53913. We also appreciate gas cards, gift cards (Walmart, Kwik Trip, Walgreens, Kohl’s), taxi vouchers from Baraboo Taxi, and used cell phones, iPods and iPads. Please note that we are not accepting stuffed animals/plush toys, used toys, clothes (except for new sweatshirts and sweatpants), shoes, used books, furniture, TVs, bar soap, hats, scarves or travel-size bottles of shampoo, conditioner, or body wash. Current needs include

Bathrooms: Toilet bowl cleaner, Toilet paper, Deodorant, Disposable razors, Small garbage cans with bags, Nail clippers, Cleaning supplies such as Lysol disinfecting spray and floor cleaner, Clorox wipes, Hairspray, Bleach, Bathroom rugs and bath mats
Kitchen: Paper towels, Ziploc bags, Silverware, Tupperware, Small mason jars, Dishwasher soap, 13-Gallon garbage bags, Brush for cleaning bottles, Sip cups, Saran wrap, Aluminum foil
Food and Beverages: Meat, Fresh fruit and vegetables, Yogurt, Cheese, Canned soup, Snack items (crackers, granola bars, etc.), Fruit juice, Milk
Laundry: Powder laundry detergent, Dryer sheets, Fabric softener sheets
Clothing for Women and Kids: Winter boots, Socks, Women’s underwear, Medium-Large size pajamas, New sweatshirts and sweatpants
Misc: Vacuum, New white full/twin bed sheets, Double stroller, Baby wipes, Band-Aids, Diapers and pull-ups, Pocket-sized calendars, Baby bottles, Umbrellas, Hangers, Weather radio, Journals, Exercise balls, Yoga/exercise DVDs, Relaxation CDs, Baby thermometer, CD players, Regular light bulbs

Special Note about Travel-Size Items: We encourage those looking to donate travel-size items to donate them to the Backpack Project. The Backpack Project strives to provide Baraboo School District students who are financially challenged to enter the school doors on the first day ‘just like everyone else’ and to show these children the community supports and encourages them to learn and do their best. If interested in donating towards this project, please contact Becky Hovde at 608-963-8230 or hivebiz@centurytel.net.

News & Research
Sexual Assault

13 Black Women on How an Oklahoma City Police Officer Terrorized Their Neighborhood: “These questions are underscored in the testimony of 13 black women in Oklahoma City who accused former police officer Daniel Holtzclaw of several instances of sexual assault and rape. Thursday night, a jury found Holtzclaw guilty on 18 out of 36 charges of burglary, indecent exposure, stalking, sexual battery, forcible oral sodomy, and rape after 40 hours of deliberation”…Read more…Read related articles: Daniel Holtzclaw: Former Oklahoma City Police Officer Guilty of Rape, Oklahoma City Ex-Cop's Convictions a Rare Triumph for Rape Victims, and Daniel Holtzclaw's Accusers Teach Us A Lot About Rape Culture
Montgomery County DA Charges Bill Cosby in 2004 Sexual Assault: “The criminal investigation into Cosby was reopened in July after new evidence was learned, according to Montgomery County prosecutor Kevin Steele. These developments highlight several important facts about sexual assault: Delayed disclosures of sexual violence are normal and common”…Read more…Read related article: Bill Cosby Charged in Sexual Assault Case
I Left My Pimp at 19 and Started an Organization That Serves Sexually Exploited Young Women: “Even though we were from different cultures and different continents, I knew what it was like to grow up in a home filled with violence, substance abuse, and to learn distorted lessons about love and family. I knew what it was like to be broke and homeless, longing for love and security. To be so very vulnerable to the lure of the commercial sex industry and open to the false promises of a pimp. I knew what it felt like when the girls would say they were trapped, that they didn’t believe there was a future for them and that they would never be able to do anything else. And I knew the pain of confusing love with fear, and security with control. What I also knew (that many of the girls didn’t know yet) was how hard it is to leave, to start from scratch, to heal from the trauma, and to begin to feel like you actually belonged in the ‘square’ world”…Read more
UW-Madison Now Under Federal Investigation for Handling of Three Sex Assault Cases: “The instigation of a new probe last month means the University of Wisconsin-Madison is under federal investigation for its handling of three sexual violence cases, among the highest for any college campus in the nation”…Read more

"Silent Consent" Photo Series By Miklos Kiss Highlights Violence Against Women & Demonstrates The Complexities Of Consent: “Instead of assuming that only ‘no’ means ‘no,’ new affirmative consent standards are dictating that only ‘yes’ means ‘yes’ — and that's a good thing. But what happens when a ‘yes’ is not enthusiastic, but rather given under pressure, coercion, or threat? Miklos Kiss' "Silent Consent" photography series examines situations around the world where ‘yes’ does not mean ‘yes’ because women are not allowed to say ‘no’”…Read more
9 Lessons I've Learned As A Rape Crisis Counselor That Are Applicable To Everyday Life: “This lesson is also known as ‘showing up.’ It's 90 percent of the emergency room advocate's role. I was once called in for a survivor who hadn't slept for more than a day, because immediately after her attack, police and family members stepped in to start investigating. By the time I got there, she didn't want to tell her story again — she just wanted to sleep. So she slept. I read a magazine next to her and made sure no one came in the room whom she hadn't okayed. She could rest knowing that she was safe for those few hours. That was the best way her ER stay could have gone”…Read more

Domestic Violence

Activists Welcome China's 1st Domestic Violence Law: “Xinhua said the law defines domestic violence as physical, psychological and other harm inflicted by family members with beatings and verbal threats listed as examples. It protects married partners, children and the elderly, as well as cohabiting heterosexual couples. People in immediate danger can file for a personal protection order that can require the abuser to move out of the home and the court must rule within 72 hours. Longtime campaigner Feng Yuan welcomed the law, but said it doesn't protect gay partners or state clearly whether sexual violence is covered”…Read more
This Comedian Made A Brave Reveal On Instagram: She Was Raped By Her Ex: “‘I’ve had an amazing year and you’ve seen the highlights here, so these photos are an uncommon thing to share but not an uncommon issue,’ Stelling captioned a disturbing photo of her bruised limbs. ‘There are many reasons not to make an abusive relationship public, mostly fear. Scared of what people will think, scared it makes me look weak or unprofessional. When friends or comics ask why we broke up it’s not easy or comfortable to reply; it doesn’t seem like the appropriate thing to say at a stand-up show, a party or a wedding. It’s embarrassing. I feel stupid. After being verbally, physically abused and raped, I dated him for two more months. It’s not simple’”…Read more

13 Portraits Show Domestic Violence Survivors Will Not Be Defined By Their Abuse: “Created by artist Chantal Barlow, the Unconventional Apology Project features 13 portraits of domestic violence survivors or women who know someone who has experienced some form of abuse. Instead of shooting somber portraits of victims, Barlow took photos of survivors laughing and smiling to show that these women will not be defined by their abuse”…Read more
Groundbreaking New Domestic Abuse Laws Could Turn Emotional Abuse and Mind Games into Crimes: “The Scottish Government has launched a consultation looking at how best to take forward plans to create a specific new offence of domestic abuse. This could see the law expanded to take in a range of actions which are not currently classed as being criminal, such as depriving someone of their liberty, isolating them from loved ones and controlling their access to money”…Read more

Miscellaneous

Tipping the Scales: The Resilience Game: [From Harvard University] “In this interactive feature, you will learn how the choices we make can help children and the community as a whole become more resilient in the face of serious challenges. Negative events can occur at any moment, and it’s your job to choose positive events to counteract these negatives”…Read more and play
Financial Abuse of the Elderly: Sometimes Unnoticed, Always Predatory: “With 10,000 people turning 65 every day for the next decade, a growing pool of retirees are susceptible to such exploitation. As many as one in 20 older adults said they were financially mistreated in the recent past, according to a study financed by the Justice Department…Even when the sums are large, cases like Ms. Cooper’s are often difficult to prosecute because of their legal complexity and because the exploitation goes unnoticed or continues for long periods. Money seeps out of savings and retirement funds so slowly it draws attention only after it is too late”…Read more…Read related article: What Banks Are Doing to Halt Elder Abuse
Justice Department Issues Guidance on Identifying and Preventing Gender Bias in Law Enforcement Response to Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence: “The guidance, through a series of detailed case examples, advises law enforcement agencies to incorporate the following principles into clear policies, comprehensive training and effective supervision protocols: Recognize and address biases, assumptions and stereotypes about victims. Treat all victims with respect and employ interviewing tactics that encourage a victim to participate and provide facts about the incident. Investigate sexual assault or domestic violence complaints thoroughly and effectively. Appropriately classify reports of sexual assault or domestic violence. Refer victims to appropriate services. Properly identify the assailant in domestic violence incidents. Hold officers who commit sexual assault or domestic violence accountable”…Read more
How Did Social Media Get So Vicious?: “When you spot a woman getting attacked or unfairly criticized, consider writing on her feed a simple ‘ouch’ or ‘Please, have respect.’ Those words, especially ‘ouch,’ put a troll on notice, says Southworth—without, most likely, inciting him or her to turn on you. She also urges you to get your male buddies to do the same. ‘There's such power in men holding other men accountable,’…The point: Remind people #letsbehuman. Making direct contact worked for Alanah Pearce, a 22-year-old gaming journalist. After getting the message ‘i'll rape u if i ever see u c—t’ on Facebook, she started sleuthing and discovered the message had been sent by a teenage boy. So she did what most of us would do in real life: She told his mom. ‘I was wondering if you might be interested in discussing [this] with him,’ she messaged. The mom responded…Afterward, the boy stopped harassing Pearce”…Read more

Deck The Gals With Neon Duct Tape: Photographer Declares “Peace On Earth” By Silencing Women In Family’s Holiday Photo: “Certainly it’s in poor taste, but hopefully the little girls are not suffering from ripping off the painful duct tape, or the utterly bizarre experience of being tied up with Christmas lights, or from hearing the message: ‘Actually, the world is more pleasant when your voice isn’t in it.’ Because that is the overall message and theme of this photo – women are better silent and unmoving than talking and taking action. That is what these girl are being told, even if you think this joke is ‘cute’”…Read more
Watch A Reporter Shut Down R. Kelly's Sexist On-Air Tantrum: “R. Kelly got a bit miffed Monday afternoon when HuffPost Live host Caroline Modarressy-Tehrani questioned the artist about how the sexual assault allegations against him impact the way fans consume his music. Kelly was so affronted by the line of questioning that he up and left the studio -- but not before he commented on Modarressy-Tehrani's appearance, wondered whether she knew what the word ‘deposition’ meant and questioned her level of intelligence”…Read more
Why You Should Always Buy the Men’s Version of Almost Anything: “The New York City Department of Consumer Affairs compared nearly 800 products with female and male versions — meaning they were practically identical except for the gender-specific packaging — and uncovered a persistent surcharge for one of the sexes. Controlling for quality, items marketed to girls and women cost an average 7 percent more than similar products aimed at boys and men”…Read more
"What Did It Mean to ‘Be a Man’ in 2015?”: “2015 was the year that masculinity became a global topic of conversation. To further the dialogue, The Representation Project focused our fourth annual video retrospective on the state of masculinity. Check out ‘What did it mean to ‘be a man’ in 2015?’ above and share positive examples of masculinity with #Unmasked”…Watch the video here

Local News

Man accused of sex offense commits suicide: “Police say the body of David J. Knoble was found Dec. 30 at his residence in the 400 block of South Park Street in Reedsburg. Knoble was wanted by authorities for allegedly sexually assaulting an underage parishioner while serving as the music director at a Reedsburg church. The charges were filed Dec. 29 in Sauk County Circuit Court”…Read more
Groups bring suicide out of the shadows: “Among the participating coalitions is Prevent Suicide Columbia County, which formed in 2013… The Sauk Prairie School District is taking the lead in forming a new suicide prevention subgroup out of its existing Sauk Prairie Wellness Alliance, an organization formed this year to bring awareness to mental health issues in the community… Like Sauk Prairie, Mauston High School had a student commit suicide in the past year”…Read more
Daniel Coughlin, 52, of Lyndon Station, was found guilty of two counts of first degree sexual assault of a child and three counts of second degree sexual assault of a child…Read more
Christopher Donahou, 26, of Reedsburg, is facing felony charges for the abuse of mother and her 2-year-old child…Read more
David Schlough, 61, of Baraboo, has been charged with false imprisonment and misdemeanor counts of disorderly conduct and operating a firearm while intoxicated…Read more

Parents' & Youth Service Providers' Section

The “Rude” Behavior I’m Teaching My Kids {Sexual Abuse Prevention}: “I have to teach them to trust their gut when they feel something they can’t put into words – and I have to be willing to trust it, too. And that means no matter who you are, my kids don’t have to give you a hug or kiss if they don’t want to. For ANY reason. Ever. The holiday season means more outings, more celebrations, more family gatherings, more crowds – more people in general…Children should not be forced to give or receive physical affection if they are not comfortable with it. What’s at stake is so much more serious than being labeled ‘rude’ or Aunt Mildred’s hurt feelings over being rejected by a 2-year-old. Why? Because 90% of children who are victims of sexual abuse know their abuser”…Read more
How Common Are Bullying and Fighting among High Schoolers?: “In 2013, US high school students took the CDC’s Youth Risk Behavior Survey. This infographic outlines some of the findings related to bullying and fighting”…View the infographic
Why High School Students Don’t Intervene to Stop Dating Violence: “The overwhelmingly majority of teens witness dating aggression or sexual violence among their peers, but many choose not to intervene — sometimes because they want to avoid drama, sometimes because they want to fuel drama, and sometimes because they’re afraid of second-guessing a more popular kid…Teens also gave examples of how they had stepped in to shield friends from unwanted advances, or to show aggressive girls and boys that their interest was unrequited”…Read more
A Chilling Message About Sexism From Daughters To Their Dads: “Warning: The below video contains content that may be triggering to some readers. ‘Dear Daddy... I know you already try harder than Superman…but I need to ask you a favor. Warning: It’s about boys.’ That's how a powerful new video called ‘#DearDaddy’ begins. Created by the Norwegian charity organization CARE, the five-minute video follows young women from birth to adulthood and uses a powerful narrative to illustrate the various forms of sexual assault, domestic violence and everyday sexism so many women experience throughout their lives”…Read more
SafeBAE Title IX PSA: Please watch this new 2-minute video on middle and high school students’ rights under Title IX and share with teens, parents of teens, and those that work with teens.

Faith Communities' Section
Free Faith Trust Institute Webinar on Jan. 6: Human Trafficking and the Role of the Faith Community: “Human trafficking is modern slavery. It is a complex, multi-billion dollar system that traps vulnerable people and economically exploits them. Women and children in our cities and towns are being forced into the sex trade. Join us for an examination of this issue, and how you and your faith community can make a difference in the lives of those in need. The abolition movement has been re-born, and we can each play a role in ending slavery. Robert Beiser, Executive Director of Seattle Against Slavery, will discuss how a coalition of grassroots activists have taken on the mission to end human trafficking, one city at a time." Time:1-2 pm CT Register for this online presentation.

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Lantern Lit on 9/30/15-10/7/15 for Vista Jackson

9/30/2015

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Vista Jackson

Obituary: "Vista Alexis Jackson was born in Racine, WI on June 23, 2001 to Wendell Jackson and Veia Crockett. Vista attended William Horlick High School. She was so excited about starting her first year as a freshman. Vista enjoyed singing and watching movies. There was something about Vista that always drew little children to her. She loved her family and had dreams of becoming a professional singer after college. Vista’s infectious smile will be dearly missed. Our Sweet Pea closed her eyes on September 10, 2015 at the age of 14"...Read more

News Story: "Racine police have arrested a 14-year-boy in the shooting death of a Racine girl.

Police said Vista Jackson, 14, was shot in her home about 8:20 p.m. Thursday in the 1000 block of Albert Street.

Vista was taken to Wheaton Franciscan Hospital by Racine Fire Rescue, and then was transferred by air to Children's Hospital in Milwaukee, where she died.

'I had just seen her, had just seen this child, you know? She ran past me crying, with one shoe. She came back 20 minutes later. She went and changed her shoes, and then two hours later this child is gone,' neighbor Tara White said.

Investigators have not released any information about what led to the shooting, but said Friday night said they will recommend charges of first-degree intentional homicide and possession of a firearm by a felon against the boy.

WISN 12 News spoke with close friends of Vista who said she was in an abusive relationship with the 14-year-old boy"...Read more

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March 2015 Community Education E-bulletin

3/1/2015

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Welcome to the March 2015 edition of Hope House's Community Education E-bulletin!

TABLE OF CONTENTS:
February Was Teen Dating Violence Awareness & Prevention Month
Hope House Donation Needs
Domestic Violence
Sexual Assault
Campus Sexual Assault
Children & Youth

Miscellaneous News
Local News
Resources
Training Opportunity
Faith Communities' Section
Parents' and Youth Service Providers' Section

February was Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month

Sadly the potential severity of teen dating violence was made all too real last month when 17-year-old Dean Sutcliffe killed his ex-girlfriend's sister and mom's boyfriend in Mazomanie. Please see the list of articles and resources below related to this case and other teen dating violence issues:

Mazomanie Homicides Shine Light on Teen Dating Violence: NBC 15 interviewed Hope House's Community Education Program Manager for a segment on teen dating violence. See related articles: DAIS Director Says Teen Dating Violence is Common and Mazomanie Teen Threatened to Kill Before Double Homicide
Teen Dating Violence Happens in Our Community: Check out Hope House's letter to the editor on Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month
[NY] State Starts Social Media Campaign Against Teen Dating Violence: Check out the 4-minute video featuring teens discussing warning signs of dating violence and encouraging bystanders to speak up.

Hope House Donation Needs
Monetary donations are most needed. Individuals have the option of donating online. Please note that a portion of your online donation will go towards PayPal fees. Donations can be mailed to Hope House, P.O. Box 557, Baraboo, WI 53913. We also appreciate gas cards, gift cards (Walmart, Kwik Trip, Walgreens, Kohl’s), taxi vouchers from Baraboo Taxi, and used cell phones, iPods and iPads. Please note that we are not accepting stuffed animals, clothes (except for sweatshirts and sweatpants), shoes, TVs, bar soap, hats, scarves or travel-size bottles of shampoo, conditioner, or body wash. Current needs include

Bathrooms: Toilet paper, Deodorant, Disposable razors, Small garbage cans with bags, Nail clippers, Toilet bowl cleaner, Cleaning supplies such as Lysol disinfecting spray and floor cleaner, Clorox wipes, Hairspray, Bleach, Bathroom rugs and bath mats
Kitchen: Dishwasher soap, 13-Gallon garbage bags, Paper towels, Silverware, Brush for cleaning bottles, Fruit juice, Sip cups, Milk, Saran wrap, Aluminum foil
Laundry: Power laundry detergent, Dryer sheets, Fabric softener sheets
Clothing for Women and Kids: Winter boots, Socks, Women’s underwear, Medium-Large size pajamas, Sweatshirts and sweatpants
Misc: Pack 'n Play, Baby wipes, Band-Aids, Diapers and pull-ups, Pocket-sized calendars, Strollers, Baby bottles, Umbrellas, Hangers, Weather radio, Journals, Exercise balls, Yoga/exercise DVDs, Relaxation CDs, Baby thermometer, CD players, Regular light bulbs, New twin bed sheets

News & Research
Domestic Violence

NASCAR Suspends Kurt Busch After Domestic Violence Details: "NASCAR suspended Kurt Busch indefinitely Friday after a judge said the former champion almost surely choked and beat a former girlfriend last fall and there was a 'substantial likelihood' of more domestic violence from him in the future. In a stunning move two days before the season-opening Daytona 500, NASCAR said Busch would not be allowed to participate in any series activities until further notice"...Read more
MLB Players to Undergo Mandatory Domestic Violence Education
Why Victims Of Domestic Violence Don’t Testify, Particularly Against NFL Players: “There are various reasons victims choose not to do testify in domestic violence cases, including the fact that reliving the experience can be embarrassing and even re-traumatizing. One of the biggest reasons they avoid court, though, is the fear of retribution from their accusers...Studies have shown that between 40 and 60 percent of offenders arrested on domestic violence charges re-offend within 30 months, and a justice system that often fails to successfully monitor abusers and enforce restraining orders — and also fails to rehabilitate and reform offenders instead of punishing them — doesn’t always inspire confidence”…Read more
Ravens Will Avoid Players With Domestic Violence Issues
The Grammys: Meet the Domestic Violence Activist Performing with Katy Perry Tonight: “Her essay in the book, ‘What I Know of Silence,’ explored her experience of child sex-trafficking by a male nanny and how she used poetry and music to both heal and help her connect with other survivors...Now, the 34-year-old Austin resident, who serves as director of communications for the nonprofit Allies Against Slavery, is poised to speak to the entire world, parlaying her advocacy right into the heart of American pop culture when she joins Katy Perry onstage at the Grammys tonight. Before Perry sings ‘By the Grace of God,’ Axtell will give a speech about her experience with domestic violence”…Read more...Read related article: The Grammys’ Mixed Message on Domestic Violence: It’s Unacceptable — Except When the Abuser is a Pop Star We Like

A Glimpse From the Field: How Abusers Are Misusing Technology: "The Safety Net Project recently surveyed victim service providers on the misuse of technology by abusers. Of the programs surveyed, 97 percent reported that the survivors they are working with experience harassment, monitoring, and threats by abusers through the misuse of technology. Abusers in intimate partner violence misuse technology in many ways: to stalk and monitor victims, to harass victims through the 'anonymity' of the technology, and to impersonate victims through technology, such as creating false social media accounts"...Read more
'This Was The Beginning Of My Fear': 8 Truths About Stalking You Need To Know: “The word ‘stalking’ has taken on a whole new meaning in the cultural lexicon...‘Stalking’ a person online before an upcoming date is common, even de rigueur. ‘Stalking’ frenemies we haven’t talked to in years (but still know all about via their Facebook profiles) has basically become a new pastime. But the truth is, actual stalking is not something to simply brush off, mention in passing or take lightly. It’s very real and very scary — and this era, it’s all too easy to get caught up in a stalker’s snare. In fact, 1 in 6 women and 1 in 14 men will be stalked in their lifetimes. Read on for eight truths about stalking”
Unspoken Side of Domestic Violence: "In June of 2014 [Christopher] Chapa was shot to death in Galveston. The woman now charged with his murder is the one he was about to propose to...Holmes describes her brother's relationship saying, 'They're willing to do whatever it takes because they love them. They don't see this as I'm in real danger; this is a real toxic relationship.' She says she's sharing his story to raise awareness about the reality of men abused by women"...Read more
Polish Lawmakers Approve Law against Domestic Violence, after Fiery Debate about Family Values

Sexual Assault

8 Love Letters That Remind Sexual Assault Survivors They Are Not Alone: "'#Survivorloveletter is a call to survivors of sexual violence and our loved ones to publicly celebrate our lives,' Ikeda writes on the Tumblr's homepage. 'By telling our stories we seek to build knowledge and reflect on the ways we heal ourselves and our communities'"...Read more
Sex Slaves on the Farm: "Janet was forced into prostitution in Mexico by a boyfriend named Antonio in 1999; coyotes brought them across the border the following year, and they went to live with Antonio’s family in the borough of Queens in New York City, where she was put to work in brothels. Every couple of weeks, a van would take her and other women and girls—some as young as 12—to Charlotte, where she would spend a week or more, forced to have sex with strangers at a brothel by night and at farm labor camps by day"...Read more

When It Comes To Sexual Assault, #TheresNoPerfectVictim: "People who report their experiences of sexual assault are subjected to constant questioning and scrutiny -- as if there is a certain way 'real victims' should behave after being raped. In reality, people process trauma in myriad ways, and someone's reaction after being assaulted should not be used as 'proof' that a rape didn't happen if it doesn't match up with the way society believes a victim 'should' act...Today, feminist activists Julie Zeilinger and Wagatwe Wanjuki started the hashtag #TheresNoPerfectVictim to discuss the pressure survivors face, and the ways in which detractors try to discredit them"...Read more
Obama Delivers Sexual Assault Message at the Grammys: ‘It Has to Stop’
Prosecutors: UIC Student Charged with Assault Said He was Re-enacting 'Fifty Shades of Grey'

Campus Sexual Assault

In 5 Minutes, This Student Destroys Our Double Standards For Men And Women: “So Smith, who has 236,000 followers on Vine, connected up with One Student, a nonprofit aimed at college sexual assault awareness and education, to create a video going after what he sees as one cause of sexual violence: societal attitudes. The video, which was uploaded on Feb. 18, uses the language of sports to dissect and destroy harmful ideas about how men and women should behave sexually”…View the video
The Worst Way to Address Campus Rape: "Their skill with a weapon or fighting ability isn’t what I’m worried about; basic training didn’t help the tens of thousands of people in the military who suffered penetrative sexual attacks in 2014...'Just saying, letting women carry guns on campus to deter rape also means letting rapists carry guns,' he tweeted...These would-be remedies exacerbate the problem they purport to solve, making victims responsible for preventing their own attacks instead of putting the onus on rapists"...Read more...Read related article: Concealed Handguns Mainly Miss the Mark as an Answer to Campus Rape
The Other Side of Campus Sexual Assault That the Media Isn't Telling: "Such treatment tends to ignore the major strides survivors have made toward changing the conversation about sexual assault on their own...Whether it's through the creation of larger organizations or individual initiatives, utilizing groundbreaking technology or making inspiring art, women and men across the country are empowering one another to become agents of change. This generation isn't passively waiting for saviors: They're starting a revolution. And they're succeeding"...Read more

The Treatment of Emma Sulkowicz Proves We Still Have No Idea How to Talk About Rape: "'If you didn't immediately dial 911, it doesn't mean you weren't raped. Everyone deals with trauma differently, depending on how we were raised, the way we see ourselves and the different ways we each handle crises,' Sulkowciz said. 'I want other survivors to know that if you reached out to your attacker after you were assaulted, it shouldn't discredit your story'"...Read more
Sexual Assault Under-Reported on U.S. College Campuses: "Researchers looked at data about on-campus sexual assaults reported by 31 large private and public universities and colleges during audits by the federal government. During the audits, the number of reported sexual assaults rose an average of 44 percent compared to previously reported figures. After the audits ended, the reported number of sexual assaults fell to pre-audit levels...The study also found that reporting of other serious crimes -- such as assault, robbery and burglary -- during audits didn't show the same dramatic increase as seen in the reporting of sexual assaults"...Read more
The Hidden Victims of Campus Sexual Assault: Students with Disabilities: “More specifically, it uncovers troubling allegations from students who said their disabilities made them targets for sexual assault; that their experiences reporting that abuse were complicated by factors like disability, race and sexual identity; and that in some cases, sexual assault was even the cause of a disability, such as depression. Their stories, experts say, offer a window into the dire need for all universities to do a better job of tackling sexual assault among students with disabilities, and into the possible legal ramifications of their inaction”…Read more

Children & Youth

The Subtly Offensive Phrases We Need To Stop Saying: “Though they might be unintentional, these offensive phrases -- called micro-aggressions -- are heard all too often in everyday conversation. And while they're frequently said in a joking way, the meaning of those words can have lasting negative effects. In a video created by SheKnows, a group of teen girls explained how micro-aggressions can be hurtful to their self-esteem”…Watch the video
Tim Kaine, Claire McCaskill Bill Would Require Sexual Assault Education In Public High Schools: "The Teach Safe Relationships Act of 2015, introduced on Tuesday by Sens. Claire McCaskill (D-Mo.) and Tim Kaine (D-Va.), would require that health education in public secondary schools include learning on 'safe relationship behavior' aimed at preventing sexual assault, domestic violence and dating violence"...Read more
Research Results from Madison Schools Suggest Compassion, Kindness Can Be Taught: "In a just-released study, UW-Madison researchers found that kids who had participated in the curriculum were less selfish and exhibited better social skills and greater mental flexibility than children who did not do the exercises. And in an added bonus, the kids who did the kindness curriculum earned higher academic marks at the end of the school year"...Read more

Meet the Middle School Girls Changing TX Dating Violence Legislation: "The group of 6th, 7th and 8th grade girls made the PSA as their outreach project for Destination Imagination, an organization that encourages student creativity through competitive problem-solving tournaments...What started as a group project for a middle school-level competition has since grown into a push for policy change with the help of TCFV"...Read more

[UK] Boy's Heartbreaking Video about his Torment at Hands of Bullies Prompts School Investigation: "A 12-year-old boy has forced his school to investigate bullies after making this heartbreaking video about his torment...'He’s showing others they can speak out. The school has been quite helpful. They’ve spoken to me and it seems like they want things to change'"...Read more
Understanding Trauma Can Turn Lives Around: Former NHLer Sheldon Kennedy: “The goal, he said, is to help children before the trauma they have experienced takes a further toll on their lives and their futures...He was abused by former hockey coach James between the ages of 14 and 19, until about 1990...Kennedy, who went on to play for the Calgary Flames and the Boston Bruins, turned to drugs and alcohol, spent time in jail, rehabilitation centres and psychiatric hospitals...After James was sentenced for abusing Kennedy and another player, Kennedy began speaking publicly about his case and became a well-known advocate for victims of abuse”…Read more
Let's Overcome Our Blind Spots When It Come to Child Trafficking: “Through research and advocacy work we know that domestic trafficking of children is far more common than most Americans believe, and more underreported. It can take the form of sexual exploitation, like what happened to Brian and Katy. And, it can take other forms. Some traffickers force children to work in peddling rings, selling magazines or candy on street corners or in suburban neighborhoods”…Read more

Miscellaneous

Facebook Rolling Out Suicide Prevention Tool: “Facebook worked with mental health organizations including the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline to ‘provide more resources, advice and support to people who may be struggling with suicidal thoughts and their concerned friends and family members.’ The company announced a new tool that allows users to report to Facebook if a friend has posted a threat to commit suicide. These reports will be reviewed by teams who can ‘send help.’ The poster in question may receive a private message from Facebook saying, ‘...a friend thinks you might be going through something difficult and asked us to look at your recent post.’ It will then direct the person to options to talk to a friend or helpline worker, or to get tips and support”…Read more
1 In 3 Women Has Been Sexually Harassed At Work, According To Survey: “A new survey found that one in three women between the ages of 18-34 has been sexually harassed at work. Cosmopolitan surveyed 2,235 full-time and part-time female employees and found that one in three women has experienced sexual harassment at work at some point their lives”…Read more and view the infographic
Ravages of Revenge Porn Spur Federal Crime Push: "Started in 2012, the End Revenge Porn campaign has helped 11 state pass laws criminalizing revenge porn. Today 16 states have criminal remedies for revenge porn, with more in the works. Though advocates say federal law is also essential to combating this vicious online crime, which is boundary-less like the Internet"...Read more

Local News

Krystal Schmidtke, 32, of Lodi, faces a felony charge of physical abuse of a child and a misdemeanor charge of disorderly conduct, stemming from allegations that she restrained and injured a 13-year-old child...Read more

Justin Wagner, 27, of Wisconsin Dells, faces charges of first-degree attempted intentional homicide, strangulation and suffocation, misdemeanor battery, and disorderly conduct, all alleged to have stemmed from domestic abuse...Read more
Shawn LaRush, 42, of Portage, charged with false imprisonment and disorderly conduct stemming from allegations that he held a woman against her will...Read more
Matthew Elliot, 24, of Lodi, sentenced to six months in jail and to register as a sex offender for sexually assaulting a 15-year-old girl...Read more
Patrick Kraemer, 46, of Wyocena, will go on trial for first-degree intentional homicide of Traci Rataczak, his girlfriend, in April of 2013…Read more
Natalie Murphy, 22, of Necedah, charged with first-degree intentional homicide of Andrew Dammen of Mauston, the father of her daughter…Read more

Resources
Child Abuse and Children with Disabilities: Teachers College at Columbia University has created web resources that are specifically focused on preparing for and conducting interviews with children who have been abused who also have disabilities. To view these resources, click here.

OVC’s Victim Assistance Training (VAT) Online has added five new modules to its curriculum: sexual assault, LGBTQ populations, victims with substance abuse issues, financial crimes, and identity theft. VAT training is free and high-quality. For more information, click here.

Transgender Sexual Violence Project: Summary of Wisconsin Data: "The Transgender Sexual Violence Project, sponsored by FORGE (For Ourselves: Reworking Gender Expression), conducted a national survey on sexual violence within the transgender and SOFFA (Significant Others, Friends, Family and Allies) community...We broadly define transgender to include a large population of people who do not strictly adhere to societally constructed gender norms and stereotypes." View the data here.

National Eating Disorder Awareness Week (Feb 22-28): The National Eating Disorders Association has created tools and resources to understand eating disorders and support individuals and families on the journey to recovery. They have an information and referral helpline, lesson plans on digital media literacy, awareness materials, and toolkits for parents, educators, and coaches. You might also be interested in the National Sexual Violence Resource Center’s online resource collection on sexual violence, trauma, and eating disorders, which you can view here.

Training Opportunity
Together for Children Conference: This conference will be held April 15-16 in Lake Geneva. Workshops include Teen Sexual Abuse: What Professionals Need to Know for Prevention and Response; Child Sexual Abuse in a Technological World: Implications for Investigation, Prosecutions and Victim Impact; A Collaborative Model for Reducing Truancy; Maximizing the Benefits of Team Building; Dangerous Homes? What injuries should make you worry about abuse after household 'accidents'; Promoting Resiliency in Young Children in Poverty who have Experienced Complex Trauma; and more. For more information and to register, visit www.preventchildabusewi.org.

Faith Communities' Section
Save the Date: The next Faith Leaders for Healthy Relationships (FLHR) luncheon will be on April 28 on Spiritual Integrity - how to help individuals re-establish trust in themselves, others, and in a higher power when someone has broken that trust due to experiences of abuse, cheating, crossing boundaries, pastoral misconduct, or conflicts in the church. Thanks to everyone that participated in the last FLHR luncheon, Community Resources Panel, on January 21 at Trappers Turn Golf Club!

More Pastors Embrace Talk of Mental Ills: “Evangelical leaders are increasingly opening up about family suicides, their own clinical depression and the relief they have received from psychiatric medication…This month, a mental health advisory group appointed by Dr. Page offered a variety of proposals to help Southern Baptist congregants and their families with mental health challenges, the first time the church has addressed the subject in a direct and comprehensive manner. The proposals include providing churches with a database of Christian counselors and mental health providers, and offering more robust education about mental health in seminaries and at Christian colleges”…Read more

Parents' & Youth Service Providers' Section
Teaching Digital Citizenship: "In partnership with Disney's Club Penguin, NetSmartz is proud to announce that our latest resource, Teaching Digital Citizenship, is available today! This free, online training tool provides practical tips for leading class discussions and highlights NetSmartz resources ideal for teaching each topic. This program provides an in-depth review of how to teach digital literacy and ethics, inappropriate content, online sexual solicitation, online privacy, sexting, and cyberbullying."

Futures Without Violence’s How to Talk to Teens about Dating Violence: “Below you’ll find information and tools to help you talk to your kids about healthy relationships, guidelines on how to navigate their world of cell phones and social networking and how to talk to your kids about being an upstander vs. a bystander”…Read more

Miss Representation Curriculum 2.0: "Watch this video with a young person in your life and complete the accompanying activity. Next, imagine a whole library of videos like this one, inspiring media literacy and learning. In the curriculum, we've paired multiple, age-appropriate, short videos with easy to implement lessons for both in and out of school. If you want to keep spreading the love, get the Miss Representation Curriculum 2.0 for your local classroom or community group."

Putting Media to the Test: “Here at loveisrespect, we’re all about building and nurturing healthy relationships, but unfortunately the media is not always on the same page. In honor of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, we’ve decided to dissect some media and put it to the test. The Healthy Relationship test, that is! Below are the music videos for three chart-toppers from 2014 [Jealous by Nick Jonas, Blank Space by Taylor Swift, and Animals by Maroon 5]. To test them, we’re going to focus on both the lyrics and the imagery”…Check out the songs’ scorings

NO BULL Challenge: "A social action organization, NO BULL Challenge invites youth (ages 13 to 23) from around the world to take a stand against bullying and to promote digital responsibility, leadership, and social action through filmmaking and social media. To participate, create a short film, public service announcement (PSA) or vine. To learn more about how you can be a leader, make it all the way to the award show in Los Angeles, and win a scholarship and other prizes, go to w ww.nobullchallenge.org. Entry deadline: April 19, 2015."

School Experiences of Trans and Gender Non-Conforming Students in Wisconsin: "The purpose of this research is to systematically document the experiences of transgender (trans) and gender non-conforming (GNC) students in Wisconsin schools to fill in the knowledge gaps about their unique needs. Six themes are addressed in the report: learning environment, physical facilities, health and wellness, safety, institutional and social support, and acceptance and respect"...Read the report

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Lantern Lit on 2/11/15-2/17/15 for Ariyl Brady and Chris Schwichtenberg

2/11/2015

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Lantern Memorial Project: Since October 2013, Hope House has joined with other domestic violence programs around the state by implementing the Lantern Project. For our part in this statewide project, we added to the lamppost in front of Hope House a purple memorial wreath. We will turn on the light for a week every time there is a death related to domestic violence in Wisconsin. We will post information online about the person that was killed. If you drive by our building and see our lamppost on, please reflect on the deadly impact that domestic violence has on our communities.

Obituaries are not available online at this time. If it becomes available, we will re-post it here.
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"TOWN OF MAZOMANIE — A 17-year-old boy, apparently upset over a breakup two weeks ago, took a handgun to his ex-girlfriend’s trailer home Monday night and killed the girl’s teen sister and another person, authorities said Tuesday.

Dean M. Sutcliffe was arrested Monday night at the scene of the shooting, said Dane County Sheriff Dave Mahoney. Investigators are recommending that prosecutors charge Sutcliffe with two counts of first-degree intentional homicide.

Ariyl Brady, 16, and her mother’s boyfriend, Chris Schwichtenberg, a 39-year-old father of two boys, were fatally shot, said Schwichtenberg’s mother, Joyce Zimdars.

Sutcliffe’s ex-girlfriend, Amanda Brady, 15, wasn’t at the home in the Rio Valley Estates trailer park at the time of the shooting, said her father, Justin Brady, of Deerfield.

'Amanda broke up with him and he took it out on my son and Ariyl,' Zimdars said of Sutcliffe.

Zimdars described a shooting scene that began with a surprise knock at the door from Sutcliffe in the quiet of the night.

'Chris went to (open) the door and from what I understand the kid just started shooting,' Zimdars said.

Deputies were called to the mobile home park at 10359 Highway Y, four miles north of Mazomanie, around 11:30 p.m. on Monday and found the two victims suffering from gunshot wounds that proved fatal, Mahoney said.

They also found Sutcliffe, Mahoney said.

'He was there and immediately surrendered to deputies,' Mahoney said.

Mary Brady, Schwichtenberg’s girlfriend and Ariyl and Amanda Brady’s mother, shared the trailer home with Schwichtenberg. Mary Brady was there at the time of the shooting, and ran to warn Schwichtenberg’s two teenage sons to stay in their room before she called 911, Zimdars said.

They were all unharmed, Mahoney said.

Sutcliffe and both Brady sisters were students at Wisconsin Heights High School, although according to Sutcliffe’s Facebook page he left the school last month and enrolled in the Wisconsin Challenge Academy, a program for at-risk youth.

Counselors were on hand at the high school to provide support to students and staff there, said Mark Elworthy, superintendent of the Wisconsin Heights School District.

'We have people who are available and dedicated for the next couple of days for that purpose,' Elworthy said.

Schwichtenberg raised his boys alone after their mother died about 10 years ago, Zimdars said, and was the manager of the mobile home park since 2002. Two of his sisters, Julie and Paula, also live at the trailer park, Zimdars added.

'He was my only son. Everybody around here loved him,' said a somber Zimdars, 61, of Madison, who was speaking from Paula’s home Tuesday morning prior to meeting with authorities. Zimdars said she was feeling numb ever since receiving the news just after midnight that her son was killed.

'Chris did everything he could for everybody,' said Zimdars.

Residents of the trailer park described Schwichtenberg as an exceptional manager who took the time to make sure everybody’s needs were met. He was especially helpful to the many elderly residents who lived there, said James Eveland, 66.

'He plowed the snow for me when I was sick. He took care of things for me,' Eveland said. 'He’d do anything for everybody.'

Another resident, Travis Spencer, 32, said Ariyl Brady always came to the aid of his young daughter when she was picked on by older kids on the bus to school. He added that Schwichtenberg earned the residents’ respect as a good father to his boys.

'It makes no sense why somebody would do something like what happened to Chris and (Ariyl),' Spencer said. 'Everybody goes through hard times. You just have to deal with it.'

Sutcliffe’s Facebook page indicates that he and Amanda Brady started dating last September.

Mahoney said deputies had multiple interactions with Sutcliffe because of what the sheriff called 'family dynamics and school attendance issues.'

In an October Facebook post, Sutcliffe announced his plan to start attending the Challenge Academy, and thanked two Dane County deputies that he said helped 'steer me in the right direction.'

The contact with law enforcement was not related to Sutcliffe’s relationship with his ex-girlfriend, Mahoney said.

Officials with Domestic Abuse Intervention Services said the shooting shows that domestic violence can be as serious a problem in teen relationships as it is in adult ones, and that 1.5 million high school students experience physical abuse each year.

'As a community we need to support teens in building healthy relationships and also work to address the root causes of domestic violence with youth,' said Shannon Barry, the Madison group’s executive director."

Read the article in the Wisconsin State Journal
Read the Channel 3000 article

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February 2015 Community Education E-bulletin

2/2/2015

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Welcome to the February 2015 edition of Hope House's Community Education E-bulletin!

TABLE OF CONTENTS:
1. February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month
2. UW-Baraboo V-Day Event
3. Survey to Help Hope House Review Its Mission
4. Heart Health Workshop
5. Adverse Childhood Experiences Workshop in Portage
6. Hope House Donation Needs

7. Domestic Violence
8. Sexual Assault
9. Campus Sexual Assault
10. Children & Youth
11. Miscellaneous News
12. Local News
13. Parents' & Youth Service Providers' Section
14. Faith Communities' Section
15. Resources

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month

Hope House has collected a list of excellent resources and awareness activity ideas for teens, parents, educators, and youth-serving providers for Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month. Click here to view the list and see how you can get involved. Feel free to call Hope House with any questions or requests for additional information or presentations at 608-356-9123.

UW-Baraboo/Sauk County V-Day Event Benefiting Hope House on February 17

UW-Baraboo/Sauk County is holding its eighth annual V-Day event on February 17th from 12:30-1:45pm at the R.G. Brown Theatre on campus. The “V” in V-Day stands for Victory, Valentine, and Vagina. Students and community members will perform a staged reading of Eve Ensler’s “The Vagina Monologues.” These monologues are taken from real women’s stories about their bodies, empowerment, and violation.

Unfortunately, a common experience for many women is that of abuse – child sexual abuse, sexual exploitation, sexual harassment, rape, domestic violence, teen dating violence, and stalking. By breaking the silence and telling women’s stories of strength and survival, other women (and men) feel more comfortable telling their own experiences of abuse.

These monologues aren’t all heavy and serious. Many are fun and flirty tales of women claiming their rights to their own bodies (and yes, their vaginas).

This Valentine’s, rather than buying flowers or chocolate, how about doing something unique like taking a partner or a friend to see “The Vagina Monologues”? After the show, there will be a “Break the Chain” dance performance as part of V-Day’s 3rd annual One Billion Rising campaign. The suggested donation is $5. Proceeds help support Hope House.

For more information on V-Day, the global movement to end violence against women and girls, please visit www.vday.org. For more information on the One Billion Rising campaign, please visit www.onebillionrising.org. To view a poster for this event, please click here.

Hope House Needs Your Help in Reviewing Our Mission
Hope House board and staff will be reviewing its mission and vision. We'd greatly appreciate community members input for this process. Please click here to take a 3-question survey by February 9th. Thanks for your assistance!

Heart Health Workshop at Hope House
Lori Rudolph, Parish Nurse Coordinator, will be at Hope House on February 12 at 10am to give a presentation on heart health. All are welcome to attend. Please call Hope House at 608-356-7500 with any questions.

Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (ACES) and Protective Factors:
Protecting and Promoting Children’s Well-being Free Workshop in Portage
You’re invited to join others from across Columbia County to come together to learn more about ACEs and their impact on health and well-being. Because we believe that all of us can be part of creating a better life for children, we will also explore the idea of “Protective Factors” as a framework for preventing ACEs in the lives of children and promoting stronger families. Organized by the Columbia County CARES Advisory Steering Committee, this free workshop will be held on February 12 from 8am-12:30pm at Grace Bible Church in Portage. Please RSVP by February 6 by emailing Patti Herman, UW-Extension Family Living Educator, at patti.herman@ces.uwex.edu.

Hope House Donation Needs
Monetary donations are most needed. Individuals have the option of donating online. Please note that a portion of your online donation will go towards PayPal fees. Donations can be mailed to Hope House, P.O. Box 557, Baraboo, WI 53913. We also appreciate gas cards, gift cards (Walmart, Kwik Trip, Walgreens, Kohl’s), taxi vouchers from Baraboo Taxi, and used cell phones, iPods and iPads. Please note that we are not accepting stuffed animals, clothes (except for sweatshirts and sweatpants), shoes, TVs, bar soap, hats, scarves or travel-size bottles of shampoo, conditioner, or body wash. Current needs include

Bathrooms: Toilet paper, Deodorant, Small garbage cans with bags, Nail clippers, Toilet bowl cleaner, Cleaning supplies such as Lysol disinfecting spray and floor cleaner, Clorox wipes, Hairspray, Bleach, Bathroom rugs and bath mats
Kitchen: Dishwasher soap, 13-Gallon garbage bags, Paper towels, Silverware, Brush for cleaning bottles, Fruit juice, Sip cups, Milk, Saran wrap, Aluminum foil
Laundry: Power laundry detergent, Dryer sheets, Fabric softener sheets
Clothing for Women and Kids: Winter boots, Socks, Women’s underwear, Medium-Large size pajamas, Sweatshirts and sweatpants
Misc: Baby wipes, Band-Aids, Diapers and pull-ups, Pocket-sized calendars, Strollers, Baby bottles, Umbrellas, Hangers, Weather radio, Journals, Exercise balls, Yoga/exercise DVDs, Relaxation CDs, Baby thermometer, CD players, Regular light bulbs, New twin bed sheets

News & Research
Domestic Violence
Marissa Alexander Released from Jail: "Marissa Alexander, the Florida mother whose case became a rallying cry for anti-racism activists and survivors of domestic violence, was released today after three years of incarceration. Alexander had faced up to 60 years behind bars for firing a single shot near her abusive husband, unable to convince a jury she had feared for her life. A hearing Tuesday confirmed the terms: Having pleaded guilty to assault in exchange for credit for time served, she will be subject to two years of electronic monitoring and house arrest, except for approved appointments and employment"...Read more

George Zimmerman Arrested on Suspected Domestic Violence
Watch the NFL's Chilling Anti-Domestic Violence Super Bowl PSA: “The clip, part of the league's No More campaign, features scenes of a disheveled home and the voice of a woman who dials 911 but pretends to order pizza — fearing to openly report the abuse within earshot of her abuser. The PSA, reportedly based on an actual 911 call, shows the woman doing her best to communicate the situation to the emergency operator”…Read more...Read related article: The NFL Wants to Listen to Victims of Domestic Violence: Where Were They Last Year
Viral Italian PSA About Domestic Violence Makes A Good Point, But Not Without Flaws
Sports Illustrated Will Run Edgy Domestic Violence Ad Ahead Of Super Bowl: “The ad, created by the progressive advocacy group Ultraviolet, includes a dramatic video of a uniformed football player tackling a woman without a helmet. The video notes that 55 domestic abuse cases in the NFL have gone unanswered under the leadership of league commissioner Roger Goodell, and it ends with the hashtag ‘#GOODELLMUSTGO’”…Read more
NFL Player Junior Galette Arrested for Domestic Violence and Battery
Domestic Violence Assault Charges Against U.S. Soccer Star Hope Solo Dismissed: "At a hearing last week, the judge renewed an order for a deposition after Solo's nephew and half-sister failed to appear for interviews...In court documents, Solo said she was defending herself against her nephew, who is 6-foot-9 and weighs 280 pounds. She claims she was hit over the head with a broom handle. Solo's relatives claimed she attacked first"...Read more
Bar Owner Apologizes For Sign Supporting Domestic Violence

Sexual Assault

Detroit Tries Charity to Test Backlogged Rape Kits: "The Wayne County Prosecutor's Office, which discovered 11,000 untested rape kits in a Detroit police storage unit five years ago, announced Tuesday that it has teamed up with two nonprofits to raise $10 million to pay for the testing, investigation and prosecution of those unsolved rape cases"...Read more...Read related article: 100 Serial Rapists Identified after Rape Kits from Detroit Crime Lab are Finally Processed
Storyline: How Survivors of Sexual Assault Tell Their Children: "'But as I got older and a little wiser, I changed my perspective. I thought, 'How empowering it can be for them to know the kind of resiliency that is within them. Here I am. Their mom. I got married. I own a home. I got a Master's degree. I teach at a college, and I have a full-time career. I did all these things. Despite what happened'"...Read more
He Was Abused by a Female Teacher, But He Was Treated like the Perpetrator: "Cameron Clarkson was a 16-year-old football player when he suddenly landed in the middle of a sex crime investigation at his St. Paul, Minn., high school. Lawyers grilled him on the details of his sexual history. School officials, in a statement to the press, cited him for not invoking the school’s sexual harassment policy...Gail Gagne, a 25-year-old basketball and lacrosse coach, was a full-time substitute teacher at Cretin-Derham Hall High School and a couple of months away from becoming a regular physical education instructor...Gagne was fired and charged with two felony counts of criminal sexual conduct with a student. But in the investigations that followed, Clarkson was treated more like the perpetrator than the victim. Gagne, meanwhile, faced an easier path in some ways"...Read more
England Just Established "Yes Means Yes" Guidelines for Police Investigating Rape
Uber Safety Checklist Created After Sexual Assault Incidents: "Uber drivers have been in Chicago and Boston have been charged with raping a female customer since December; so far the 'safe ride checklist' is only available in these two cities"...Read more
NBC Cuts Ties with Bill Cosby amid Sexual Assault Allegations

Campus Sexual Assault

Male Victims Of Campus Sexual Assault Speak Out: “It was Andrew's sixth night of freshman year at Brown University when he was assaulted by a male student in his dorm bathroom. When Andrew brought on-campus charges, his assailant was expelled. Unlike myriad students who report mishandled cases in the burgeoning national campaign against sexual assault, Andrew initially believed his case was handled appropriately. But after The Huffington Post discovered Andrew’s assailant had previously been found responsible for assaulting two other students and had not been expelled, Andrew was devastated. Andrew has decided to share his story in hopes that victims of assault -- and specifically male victims -- be taken more seriously…‘There are a lot of male survivors who haven’t found someone they can relate to,’ he said. ‘I want to break the silence, and I want other men to know that they’re not alone’”…Read more

The Downside of the Vanderbilt Rape Convictions: "Two former Vanderbilt University football players were convicted yesterday of raping a fellow student back in 2013. While it was a rare win for justice in such cases, it nonetheless highlights the many ways the system is stacked against victims. It was a muted victory, as those in sexual violence cases tend to be. You hope it gives the victim some semblance of healing, but we should also remember all those who didn't get their day in court. After the jury handed down guilty verdicts for 16 felonies, including aggravated rape and sexual battery, the now-21-year-old woman issued a statement to those who have endured similar ordeals: 'You are not alone. You are not to blame.' One detective working the case called her, 'one of the strongest women I've ever met.' Yet it was no surprise that some sports commentators tried to steer the conversation toward sympathy for the attackers"...Read more
How Faculty Can Use Syllabi to Reduce the Campus Sexual Assault Epidemic: "By taking the simple measures of incorporating Title IX language into syllabi and giving students the names and numbers of the primary campus resources, educators can do their part to provide support for victims and help end the epidemic of campus sexual violence"...Read more

Two New Documentaries Will Highlight Student Activism Against Campus Sexual Assault: "On Wednesday, Pivot, the TV network for Participant Media, will release 'It Happened Here,' a documentary by Emmy Award winner Lisa F. Jackson. The film follows women from Amherst College, Vanderbilt University and the University of Connecticut who went public about how their schools mishandled their sexual assault cases. Starting in February, 'It Happened Here' will screen on a number of college campuses as part of the White House's It's On Us campaign, launched last year to combat college sexual assault...Another documentary on the subject, 'The Hunting Ground,' will premiere later this week at the Sundance Film Festival…'The Hunting Ground' is set to debut in theaters and in a broadcast on CNN sometime in 2015"...Read more
States Want More Campus Rape Reports Sent To Police, But Survivors Feel Differently: “The New Jersey Coalition Against Sexual Assault likes proposals such as Cuomo's that would make sure options are laid out to victims, but is strongly against the bill offered in New Jersey that would require colleges to tell law enforcement of sexual assault reports. ‘Why, once someone enrolls in one of our colleges or universities, should they lose their right to make decisions about how to proceed after such a violent crime was committed against them?’ asked Patricia Teffenhart, executive director of NJCASA. ‘Why are the rights of college survivors trumped by our desire to hold institutions and offenders accountable?’”…Read more
If Colleges Want To Regain Trust On Sexual Assault, 'It Starts With Transparency': "'People get confused when we talk about campus sexual assault -- yes, it's a potentially criminal act, but it's also a civil rights infraction. That's where Title IX comes in,' said Lisa Maatz, the top policy adviser at the American Association of University Women. 'We're not asking universities to be detectives and judge and jury to deprive someone of their liberty and send them to jail. What they must do is ensure an equal and equitable learning environment for men and women'"...Read more
These Are The Colleges And Universities Now Under Federal Investigation For Botching Rape Cases

Children & Youth

[WI] Pittsville Students Use Social Media to Pay It Forward: "The entire Pittsville High School student body was not in school for a few hours Wednesday morning...Students and staff members decided to pay forward acts of kindness through volunteering, then post photos and comments on social media accounts"...Read more

Teen Girls Report Less Sexual Victimization after Virtual Reality Assertiveness Training: "'Research has shown that skills are more likely to generalize if they are practiced in a realistic environment, so we used virtual reality to increase the realism.' The training program, called 'My Voice, My Choice,' emphasizes that victims do not invite sexual violence and that they have the right to stand up for themselves because violent or coercive behavior is never OK...She cautioned, however, that the research is preliminary and based on a small sample: 42 in the 'My Voice, My Choice' condition and 36 in a control condition. Future research is needed to establish the benefits of the program across different age groups and populations, for example, college versus high school students"...Read more
How Girls Are Seeking (and Subverting) Approval Online: "For some -- especially girls -- what starts as a fun way to document and share experiences can turn into an obsession about approval that can wreak havoc on self-image... A new countermovement -- call it the 'ugly selfie' trend -- is prompting girls to share their true selves and accept (and even challenge) whatever feedback they receive"...Read more
Interrupting Cycle of Violence before Young Perpetrators and Their Victims Reach Adulthood: "Evidence suggests that the drivers of gender-based violence among adolescents are similar to those identified for adults. In addition to exposure to violence as a child and prior victimization, bullying and homophobic teasing, poor parental practices, harmful alcohol and substance use, unequal social norms that condone gender-based violence, lack of female empowerment, controlling male behavior, as well as laws and policies that perpetuate gender inequality are risk factors"...Read more
AP: At Least 786 Kids Die of Abuse or Neglect under Watch of Child Protective Services: "Most of the 786 children whose cases were compiled by the AP were under the age of 4. They lost their lives even as authorities were investigating their families or providing some form of protective services because of previous instances of neglect, violence or other troubles in the home...The AP reviewed thousands of pages of official reports, child fatality records and police documents for the period in question, which ran from fiscal year 2008 through 2013"...Read more

Miscellaneous

Celebrating MLK Day: Reclaiming Our Movement Legacy: "Dr. King nurtured visions of a movement that could restore a deep and abiding love for all of humanity; a world where the restoration of democracy and full citizenship, of an economic system that could provide for everyone, and an end to war and militarization. Dr. King's dream tackled poverty and systemic inequality. Ultimately his vision was a society with human rights for all"...Read more...Read related article: 11 Black American Icons You Won't Learn About On MLK Jr. Day — But Should
How White Americans Lose When They Don’t Stand Up for Racial Justice (and 4 Ways They Can Counter Racism Instead)
In Preventing Trans Suicides, 'We Have Such A Long Way To Go': "A recent study from UCLA found that 41 percent of transgender people in the survey had attempted suicide — nearly nine times the national average. That's why Greta Martela founded Trans Lifeline, a suicide hotline for trans people, run by transgender volunteers...Trans Lifeline launched in September and it's already getting around 60 calls a day. Alcorn's case hit home, Martela says"...Read more
NO MORE: 10 Reasons We're Excited for 2015: "We begin the year with a message of hope: 2014 was the year a new national conversation surrounding sexual assault and domestic violence began, and together we’re working to sustain and gain even more momentum as we head into ‘15. It was hard to select from so many, but here’s just ten of the many incredibly empowering takeaways, big and small, from the past twelve months"...Read more

'This Girl Can' Reminds Women That Healthy Bodies And 'Perfect' Bodies Are Not The Same Thing: "Sport England, an organization providing services and funding to sports programs in the UK, launched the ‘This Girl Can’ campaign on Jan. 12 after research showed that 75 percent of English women would like to be more active...The 90-second ad shows women of all body types participating in their favorite sports -- without any concern for what they look like. Phrases like 'I jiggle, therefore I am' are interspersed with shots of women working out -- cellulite, smudged makeup, sweat patches and all. None of the women featured in the ad are models or professional athletes, reinforcing the message that athletics are accessible to everyone"...Read more
Hollaback's New Sexual Harassment Video: "Seeing Isn't Always Believing" is the third video in a new series to raise awareness and end street harassment worldwide. Watch the video and read more about it here.

Proof Tabloids Represent Men And Women Very Differently: "In the video 'The Experiment,' writer Kate Hardie and lighting technician Andy Lowe cut out pictures of men and women featured in the British tabloid The Sun, the UK's most widely read daily newspaper. Over the course of six months, Hardie and Lowe pasted all of these photos to a wall, placing images of women on one side and men on the other. The results show the stark contrast between how women are represented and how men are"...Read more

Local News

Students Learn About Healthy Relationships [from Hope House]...Check out this information on the school district newsletter too
Michael Traxler, 28, of Westfield, was charged with felony counts of second-degree sexual assault of a child and repeated sexual assault of the same child...Read more
Terry Brace, 73, of Columbus, pleaded no contest to felony repeated sexual assault of the same child...Read more
Sotero Rodriguez, 68, of North Freedom, sentenced to 17 years of prison for sexually assaulting a young girl on multiple occasions in 2013...Read more
Former U.S. airman Eric Popaeko, sentenced to three years in prison for repeatedly sexually assaulting a 14-year-old Reedsburg boy that he met online...Read more
Cody Russell, 21, of Arlington, faces a felony charge stemming for physically abusing a 10-month-old baby boy...Read more

Parents' & Youth Service Providers' Section
Grief In The Classroom: 'Saying Nothing Says A Lot': "A new website — GrievingStudents.org — is trying to help teachers and school leaders answer that question. It's a database of fact sheets, advice and videos. The materials were produced by the Coalition to Support Grieving Students, a group including 10 national organizations that represent teachers, school administrators and support staff"...Read more

Call Out Sexist Ads This Super Bowl Sunday: “[The Representation Project is] inviting you to live tweet the Super Bowl with us and our partners, The 3% Conference. Tell advertisers whether their commercial was a fumble with #NotBuyingIt or a touchdown with #MediaWeLike. Together we can combat harmful stereotypes and demand better representation for all”…Check out the commercials here

Common Sense Media's 10 YouTube Channels for Girls (Completely Makeup- and Fashion-Free!) and 10 Awesome YouTube Channels for Boys (With No Violence, Explosions, or Macho Posturing)

KidSmartz™ Safety Dance Video Contest: "Would you like a chance win $10,000 for your school? Check out this contest from KidSmartz - our sister-program focusing on abduction prevention. The KidSmartz™ Safety Dance Video Contest offers educators a fun and novel way to help K -5 students engage with lessons about personal safety. Film your students dancing to the KidSmartz remix of the 80s hit song 'The Safety Dance.' One school from each of the four regions across the U.S. will be chosen to win. Each school may submit one video entry although K-5 students from multiple classes may perform together"...Click here to learn more.

Thatsnotcool.com Now on Tumblr: Thatsnotcool.com has created a Tumblr that uses gifs, pictures, and quotes to draw attention to common instances of digital dating abuse. Accessible, funny, and informative, this Tumblr is a great social media resource to share with the teens that you work with. Check it out here.

The "Real World" of Teen Dating Violence: "In this Research for the Real World seminar, Dr. Peggy C. Giordano shares preliminary findings from a longitudinal study on the nature of teen dating relationships and risk factors for dating violence. The findings challenge traditional assumptions about gender in early relationships and how youth deal with disagreement. Conflict around financial concerns, infidelity and time spent with peers are risk factors for violence among young adults. Dr. Giordano stresses that developing a more nuanced view of anger, control and communication around these areas can provide opportunities to change patterns of violence in relationships." Watch the recorded seminar here and read the research brief Teen Dating Violence: How Peers Can Affect Risk & Protective Factors.

Our Gender Revolution Campaign: "The Idaho Coalition Against Sexual & Domestic Violence encourages you to engage young people, communities, and schools to promote gender equity as a way to prevent gender violence - relationship abuse, sexual harassment, sexual assault and other forms of violence - that disproportionately impacts girls and women, transgender, and people who are gender non-conforming. As part of February's National Teen Dating Violence Awareness & Prevention Month, an inter-generational partnership of youth and adults developed the Our Gender Revolution high school and middle school campaigns. Order free Our Gender Revolution Campaign materials (conversation guide, posters, brochures, stickers) by clicking here. Materials can also be downloaded. During the months of February-April, anyone who facilitates a conversation with youth or young adults (ages 14-25) and answers a brief survey will be randomly selected for a $100 incentive! Each month we will select up to 25 individuals to receive the incentive for a total of 75 winners. The more conversations you facilitate, the more chances you'll have to be selected! To be eligible for the incentive, facilitate a conversation with high school students and answer the Our Gender Revolution Conversation Guide Survey."

Faith Communities' Section
Community Resources Panel: Thanks to the nearly 40 people that attended the Community Resources Panel on January 21 at Trappers Turn Golf Club in Wisconsin Dells. Thanks also to the panelists from law enforcement, prosecution, healthcare, human services, advocacy, and a faith community who shared their expertise with us. This luncheon was part of a series. Stay tuned for information on the next luncheon on spiritual integrity.

Upcoming Free Webinars from the Faith Trust Institute: Upcoming webinar topics include addressing domestic violence in pre-marital counseling, talking with teens about social media, battered African-American women, the spiritual crisis of child victims of abuse, and addressing elder abuse. Click here to learn more and register.

Resources
Demand Better Media in 2015: "The Representation Project is thrilled to premiere our Demand Better Media in 2015 video. While we have a lot to celebrate, some things aren’t changing fast enough. We all – men and boys, women and girls – must combat harmful stereotypes and demand better representation in our media and culture at large"...Watch the video

The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs' LGBTQ and HIV-Affected Intimate Partner Violence Report in 2013: "Although reports of violence remained consistent with those in 2012, NCAVP’s 2013 report documents 21 homicides, the highest number of LGBTQ intimate partner violence (IPV) homicides recorded and on par with the 21 homicides in 2012. These intimate partner violence homicides illustrate the severe and deadly impact of intimate partner violence in LGBTQ and HIV-affected communities. Within the 2013 intimate partner violence report, person level data indicates that gay men, LGBTQ and HIV-affected communities of color, LGBTQ youth and young adults, bisexual survivors, and transgender communities experienced the most severe forms of IPV. These findings continue to highlight the importance of IPV prevention, strategic and community-specific responses to IPV, and the need for research and accurate documentation of intimate partner violence in LGBTQ and HIV-affected communities"...Read the full report here

Reproductive and Sexual Coercion Toolkit: The Virginia Action Alliance has released a Reproductive and Sexual Coercion Toolkit with information on coercion, screening, trauma-informed care and resources specifically for home visitors and healthcare providers. View the toolkit here.

Human Trafficking Awareness Month (January 2015): In support of Human Trafficking Awareness Month, the National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN) has resources for mental health professionals, law enforcement personnel, health care professionals, and survivors on the signs of trafficking and services for human trafficking survivors...Check out these related resources: NSVRC's Assisting Trafficking Victims Information Packet and National Human Trafficking Resource Center

Adult Sexual Assault: A Trauma Informed Approach: The Michigan Domestic and Sexual Violence Prevention and Treatment Board has created a new in-service/roll call training film for law enforcement and allied professionals. This two-part film provides an overview of how trauma impacts victims and how law enforcement first responders can implement a trauma informed response and approach to sexual assault survivors. To preview or share the film on YouTube, click here. To download the film, click here. To order a DVD of the film, click to email here.

Legal Issues Related to Elder Abuse: Guides for Law Enforcement: The American Bar Association has produced two new free publications: a pocket guide and a desk guide for law enforcement on legal issues related to elder abuse. Click here to learn more and to order or download a copy.

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