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Our Lantern Will Be Lit In Memory of Shannon Mani and her unborn child and Chase Alan Fleischauer, from 4/18/18-4/24/18

4/19/2018

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Since October 2013, Hope House has joined with other domestic violence programs around the state by implementing the Lantern Project. For our part in this statewide project, we added to the lamppost in front of Hope House a purple wreath. We will turn on the light for a week every time there is a death related to domestic violence in Wisconsin. We will post information online about the person(s) that was killed. If you drive by our building and see our lamppost on, please reflect on the deadly impact that domestic violence has on our communities.


April 13th, 2018 Shannon Mani and her unborn child, Age 21, Waukesha

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After Mani's parents, whom she lived with, drove to Neal's residence in their search for their daughter, Neal told them he had not seen her that day, the complaint said.

Waukesha police subsequently contacted Neal by phone. According to the complaint, he again denied having seen her on April 13. Neal said his last contact with her had been the previous afternoon and that she had not responded to subsequent text messages. But in a subsequent in-person interview with Waukesha police, Neal changed his story, indicating he had exchanged a text message with her on April 13, the complaint said.

Through her phone records, Waukesha police also determined Mani's cellphone had last been active at about 1:30 p.m. April 13 in the area of Neal's residence, the complaint said.

Her parents also brought Mani's Apple Watch to Waukesha police, who eventually accessed its data and which revealed a text conversation shortly before noon April 13 between Mani and Neal. In that conversation, Neal asked if she still planned on coming to his residence, as previously planned, and she indicated she was already nearby.

With that, Milwaukee police picked up the investigation.

While Milwaukee police were interviewing Neal elsewhere, authorities executed a search warrant at his residence. Using a forensic bloodstain agent, police found traces of blood in six locations, mostly in the basement but also at the top of the stairs leading to the basement, according to the complaint.

Milwaukee police, who were still interviewing Neal, confronted him with the bloodstain evidence.

According to the complaint, Neal acknowledged at that point that Mani had been inside his house on April 13 and said they had gotten into an argument. During that argument, Neal said Mani grabbed a gun he had told her he had obtained for his protection, and she also grabbed a kitchen knife. Neal said she tried to shoot him with the gun, but it didn't fire because the safety was still in place.

Neal reportedly told police he then shot her twice in the head, causing her to fall down the basement stairs, then tried to attack him again, so he cut her with the knife, the complaint said.

He also allegedly admitted putting her body in a garbage bag in a suitcase and taking it to his storage locker on Tower Street. He also moved her car to a parking lot in Wauwatosa, and disposed of her cellphone in a cemetery pond and her purse in a garbage bin.

When police opened the storage locker, they found Mani's frozen body. Police said her head was wrapped in a black bag, her eyes had been covered with duct tape and both her ankles and wrists had been bound with duct tape. Inside of the suitcase, they also found bloody towels, duct tape, a knife handle and a knife blade, the complaint said.

In a subsequent autopsy, the Milwaukee County Medical Examiner’s Office observed multiple stab wounds to Mani's face and neck as well as two gunshot wounds to her head. The report listed the manner of death to be homicide.
There was no mention about a motive in the complaint.

Neal remained in custody pending bail considerations. He made his first court appearance on Tuesday.



April 14th, 2018, Chase Alan Fleischauer, Age 19, New Richmond

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Bail was set at $500,000 on Monday for a western Wisconsin man who prosecutors say killed his 19-year-old son last weekend.

St. Croix County District Attorney Michael Nieskes said during the bail hearing that first-degree intentional homicide charges were expected to be filed Tuesday against 42-year-old Kayle Alan Fleischauer of New Richmond in the shooting death of his son, St. Paul resident Chase Alan Fleischauer, who also had attended college in Brainerd.

St. Croix County Circuit Court Judge Michael Waterman ordered the cash bond amount for Kayle Fleischauer, who was being held in St. Croix County jail on an investigations hold and on suspicion of being a felon in possession of firearms.

Nieskes said investigators removed eight guns from Fleischauer’s home after the Saturday shooting.

Defense attorney Katie Bosworth argued for a lower cash bond at the hearing, saying her client’s felony conviction was from nearly 25 years ago and “there is no indication that he’s a danger to the public.”

Nieskes contended the opposite was true, telling Waterman “the allegation is homicide of a family member — his son.”

“He is a danger to himself and the public,” Nieskes said.

The judge said he agreed with Nieskes.

The St. Croix County sheriff’s office on Sunday identified Chase Alan Fleischauer as the victim of a fatal gunshot wound to the head. According to a news release, the incident was domestic-related and an adult male — identified in court as Kayle Fleischauer — was taken into custody.

The incident was first reported at 4:11 a.m. in Richmond.

According to the sheriff’s office:
Deputies and New Richmond police responded to a 911 caller who requested assistance for a man with a gunshot wound. One person at the scene unsuccessfully attempted lifesaving efforts before EMS crews arrived, according to deputies.
Fleischauer was pronounced dead by the St. Croix County medical examiner at 6:37 a.m. The Ramsey County medical examiner’s office on Sunday ruled the death a homicide.

“Initial investigation found this was a domestic-related incident and there is no threat to the public,” the news release states.
Nieskes said at the hearing that Kayle Fleischauer was “highly intoxicated” when officers arrived
 


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Our Lantern Will Be Lit In Memory of Alexander Woodworth, Christopher Race, Kiara Brown, Andrew T. Thorland and Timothy A. Thorland from 4/04/18 to 4/10/18

4/9/2018

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Lantern Project: Since October 2013, Hope House has joined with other domestic violence programs around the state by implementing the Lantern Project. For our part in this statewide project, we added to the lamppost in front of Hope House a purple wreath. We will turn on the light for a week every time there is a death related to domestic violence in Wisconsin. We will post information online about the person(s) that was killed. If you drive by our building and see our lamppost on, please reflect on the deadly impact that domestic violence has on our communities. We know the list of stories we post here is incomplete. We strive to learn about and share these stories but know that there are some that we and the media miss. If you see a news story of a death in WI related to domestic violence and don't see it posted here, please feel free to let us know about it here. Thank you.


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March 22nd, 2018, Alexander Woodworth, 24, Eau Claire

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The Eau Claire man whose body was found in a car in rural Dunn County last Friday, was stabbed to death.

That's one of many new details News 18 learned Wednesday at a bond hearing held for the woman suspected of killing him.

Ezra McCandless, from Stanley, appeared in court via video conference from the Dunn County Jail on Wednesday. She's held on possible first degree murder charges for the death of a man officials called "her significant other," Alexander Woodworth.

"The provisional autopsy report indicates that the deceased victim was stabbed 16 different times," said Dunn County District Attorney Andrea Nodolf. "The information that we have from the defendant in this case is that she is claiming that the deceased victim attacked her, but then also informed law enforcement after she wanted it to stop she carved the word "boy" into her arm." Nodolf requested McCandless be held on a $750,000 cash bond given the severity of the crime, saying she believes McCandless is a threat to others due to concerns about her mental stability.

Defense attorney Aaron Nelson argued against the high bond, calling it 'ridiculous. '"She has ties to the community, she has lived here basically her entire life," Nelson argued. "Her family is there, she has no prior record, no prior arrests. I think the amount that was proposed is, unnecessary." Ultimately, the judge set bond at $250,000.

News 18 did some digging, and learned other information. According to a search warrant we obtained, this case started last Thursday night (March 22),  when a man called 911 to report that McCandless, who was distraught, showed up at his house near the crime scene. She was described as cold, barefoot and disheveled, with some blood around her mouth, and asked that he take her to see a doctor.

No charges have officially been filed against McCandless yet, but the DA anticipates a charge that carries mandatory life in prison.

The Dunn County Sheriff’s Office is looking for anyone that may have information about this case.

If you live near, or were traveling on, CTH E between Hwy 12 on Thursday, March 22nd between 1:00 pm and 4:30 pm and saw something out of the ordinary such as a vehicle, people walking or biking that you  don’t normally see in the area, you should call police.

There may also be people that know the victim and/or suspect in this case that may have information that has not been relayed to law enforcement yet. Anyone having information they feel may be relevant to this homicide investigation is encouraged to call the Dunn County Sheriff’s Office at 715-232-1348 to speak with Sgt. Todd Kurtzhals or Investigator Rod Dicus. Information may also be relayed to the Sheriff’s Office through Dunn County Crime Stoppers at dunncocrimestoppers.com.



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March 24th, 2018 , Christopher Race, Age 39, Wisconsin Rapids


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A 39-year-old Wisconsin Rapids man shot to death in a coffee shop March 24 had his two young children with him when he was killed, according to court documents filed l ate Thursday afternoon in Wood County Circuit Court.A charge of first-degree intentional homicide was filed Thursday against Gary E. Bohman, 59, in the shooting death of Christopher M. Race. According to court documents: Wisconsin Rapids officers responded to Higher Grounds Bakery and Coffee Shop, 4231 Eighth St. S., Wisconsin Rapids on March 24 after the Wood County Dispatch received a 911 call with an open line.

When officers arrived at the scene, a neighboring business owner was standing outside with a 7-year-old boy, one of Race's sons. The man told officers the boy's dad was shot while standing behind the counter of the coffee shop.
The man said the boy ran over to his business and said his father was shot. The boy told an officer he tried to call 911 from the bakery, but he was not sure whether the call went through.

Officers found Race on the floor behind the counter. He had a wound to his upper abdomen and appeared to be dead.
Another officer saw Bohman walking toward the coffee shop holding Race's 11-month-old son. Bohman told the officer he had called 911. Bohman said he arrived at the bakery to get a coffee and found Race on the floor.
The 7-year-old boy told an officer that he, his 11-month-old brother, his father and another man were inside the bakery when the 7-year-old heard a gunshot. The boy said Bohman was the man in the coffee shop.

A Wood County Sheriff's Department lieutenant found a gun in Bohman's pocket. Officers examined the 9mm pistol and found one round in the chamber. The 9mm round matched an empty shell casing found inside the bakery.
A detective watched surveillance footage from inside the bakery. The footage showed Race working in the bakery with his 11-month-old and 7-year-old sons.

The footage showed two customers, one of them Bohman, inside the bakery. One customer left and Bohman got up and went to the counter. It appeared Bohman asked Race for an item inside the bakery case. Bohman is then seen raising a pistol with his right hand and firing one shot, hitting Race, and Race fell to the ground.
Bohman then is seen picking up the 11-month-old child and carrying him around the store for some time before leaving with the child.

Employees at Applebee's Restaurant reported a man carrying a child came into the restaurant, said someone had been hurt and asked employees to call 911.
Police showed Race's wife a still frame shot of Bohman sitting in the cafe. Race's wife recognized Bohman as her ex-husband.

Bohman is scheduled to make a court appearance Monday morning. If convicted, he faces a maximum sentence of life in prison.



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March 26th, 2018 , Kiara Brown Age 18, Milwaukee

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The ex-boyfriend of a Milwaukee teen shot and killed earlier this week now faces criminal charges.

Kiara Brown was found shot to death in a car outside her home near N. 98th St. and W. Carmen Ave. Monday.
The next day, 19-year-old Marvin Patterson turned himself into police, according to a criminal complaint. He initially told officers that Brown tried grabbing a gun he had placed in the cup holder of the car. When he tried to grab it from her, the gun accidentally went off, the complaint says.

Patterson quickly changed his story, telling police he "decided to point the gun at her head," and when he did so "the gun went off and shot [Kiara]."

According to the complaint, Patterson says "he did not intend to kill [Kiara]," and drove the car into an alley and left her inside after the crime because "he freaked out."

Patterson faces one count of first degree reckless homicide. If convicted, he faces up to 65 years in prison.

Kiara's mother Kenisha says her daughter had been worried about picking out the right prom dress and finishing her senior year. Kenisha will instead get to plan her daughter’s funeral.

“He took my baby,” said Kenisha Brown. “He turned himself in, but it’s not going to make me feel better. It’s not going to take the pain away.”

She said Patterson lured her out of the house Sunday saying he had something to show her. The two had broken up a year ago but he had recently gotten back in touch.

“This is someone who clearly let jealously play a huge role,” said Trinity Brown, Kiara’s aunt.

The head of Milwaukee’s Domestic Violence Commission Karin Tyler said any violence in a relationship, no matter the age, should not be ignored.

According to the Center for Disease Control, 12 percent of high school girls report physical violence from a partner. But the commission said the numbers are much higher.

"It's one in three youth have experienced that. That's quite a bit and it can be very volatile,” said Tyler.

Kiara’s family now wants to know if someone saw their daughter being abused in the past. But her mom said that does not bring back their daughter.

“Even if I get answers that won’t be enough. That won’t be enough,” said Kenisha Brown.


April 1st, 2018 , Andrew T. Thorland -  Age 33, Madison

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The homicide victim and suspect in the shooting on Meadowlark Drive have been identified.

Andrew T. Thorland, age 33, has been confirmed the victim of a gun related homicide. He was brought to a local hospital, but died shortly after arriving.

Timothy A. Thorland, age 58, has been confirmed as the suspect in the gun related homicide. He was also brought to a local hospital after a self-inflicted gun injury, but died shortly after arriving.

Madison Police responded to the 600 block of Meadowlark Drive for reports of shots fired early Sunday morning.

"Madison apparently has its first official homicide of the year," Madison Police Chief Mike Koval said in a press conference Sunday evening. "This has all the tell-tale signs of a murder-suicide."

The call in came in at 6:08 a.m. at 614 Meadowlark Drive that two people were down with gunshot wounds, according to Madison Police Chief Mike Koval.

When officers arrived, they were contacted by a 61-year-old woman who directed them to a bedroom of a residential single-family dwelling. Koval says the "very distraught" mother and wife of the men reported the shooting.

"The room was first tactically cleared and officers located two individuals, a 58-year-old white male as well as a 33-year-old white male who were both found with gunshot wounds to their bodies," Chief Koval said.

MFD responded once the scene was deemed stable and attempted life-saving resuscitation and aid. Both men were taken to a local trauma hospital. Both individuals were pronounced dead shortly after arrival.

"Given the fact our investigation thus far would indicate that the men were known to one another, they were in a domestic relationship in the context of a father and a son," Chief Koval said.

MPD recovered the semi-automatic gun and four casings from the incident.

Authorities haven't yet released the men's names. Koval says authorities have a "good working supposition" about which man fired the shots.

There had also been a friend, an acquaintance of the 33-year-old who had spent the night in anticipation of having to go to work early in Madison, according to Chief Koval.

"He has already been interviewed and suffice to say that we have nothing that would suggest that there was any precipitating event which would have occurred hours just prior to this, as everybody was seemingly was getting on with their normal order of business watching movies and there was nothing that would have given any tell tale sign that this was going to happen this morning," Chief Koval said.

There was still a smell of remnant gun powder when officer arrived, according to Koval.

"That’s how quickly it was contained, there’s absolutely no indications in terms of any forced entry to the home or anything beyond what occurred in that isolated family dwelling this morning," Chief Koval said.

Koval added that the capacities of the incidents over the course of the last week are something that he's concerned about.

"Acknowledging that we these officers and firefighters that are rendering aid and care, what they are seeing is not the norm, not the human condition, as we all typically will experience it. The first responders who have a unique role in stewarding are vulnerable, but also have to be looked at as how we’re vulnerable as well to those repeated onsets. This week has been particularly compelling," Chief Koval said.

An investigation is ongoing.
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April 2018 Community Education E-bulletin

4/1/2018

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Welcome to the April 2018 edition of Hope House's Community Education E-bulletin!​
TABLE OF CONTENTS:
1. Raising Awareness this April
2. Denim Day April 25
3. Hope House Donation Needs
4. Sexual Assault
5. Domestic Violence
6. Miscellaneous News
7. Parents' and Youth Service Providers' Section
8. Faith Communities' Section
9. Training & Resources
 

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April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) & Child Abuse Prevention Month
Want to know what Hope House is doing this April for Sexual Assault Awareness Month and Child Abuse Prevention Month? We're planning things like Denim Day (see below), Supporting Survivors Panel, SAAM-themed adult coloring pages at the River Arts Center, community displays and booths, proclamations and resolutions, poster distribution, radio PSAs, newspaper articles, school announcements, and more. Learn more here and on our Facebook page including ways you can get involved! Please visit the National Sexual Violence Resource Center's SAAM page to learn more about this year's theme, "Embrace Your Voice."

 

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Wear Jeans with a Purpose on Denim Day, April 25
​Join Hope House and a multitude of other agencies, schools, businesses, churches, and elected officials by participating in Denim Day on April 25. This international campaign started when a rapist was let free in his appeal case because the judges ruled that the woman’s jeans were so tight that she must’ve helped him get them off and thus, in the judges’ eyes, was giving consent. We ask that people wear jeans to show your support of survivors, to help end victim-blaming, and to raise awareness of what consent really looks like. In exchange for wearing jeans, employees could make a small donation to Hope House. If you’d like to participate in Denim Day, please let us know at 608-356-9123. We’d greatly appreciate it if you sent us a photo or tagged us on Facebook of your employees wearing jeans on April 25 so we can promote it on our Facebook page and e-bulletin. Thank you!

 

Hope House Donation Needs
​Monetary donations are most needed.  Individuals have the option of donating ​online.  Please note that a portion of your online donation will go towards PayPal fees.  Donations can be mailed to Hope House, P.O. Box 557, Baraboo, WI 53913. We also appreciate gas cards, gift cards (Walmart, Kwik Trip, Walgreens, Kohl’s), taxi vouchers from Baraboo Taxi, and used cell phones, iPods and iPads.  Please note that we are not accepting used stuffed animals/plush toys, used toys, clothes (except for new sweatshirts and sweatpants), shoes, used books, furniture, TVs, bar soap, hats, scarves or travel-size bottles of shampoo, conditioner, or body wash. Current needs include the following:
  • Shelter Supplies: pillows, hand sanitizer, tissues
  • Food: milk, produce, bottled water
  • Baby Items: size 6 diapers
  • Cleaning Supplies: floor cleaner, toilet bowl cleaner, dishwasher detergent, disinfecting sprays/wipes
  • Kitchen: tall garbage bags
  • Program Supplies: whiteboard markers, highlighters, 2-pocket plastic folders
  • New Clothing for Adults and Children: new women's underwear (size 5-8), yoga pants (size medium and large)
Special Note about Travel-Size Items: We encourage those looking to donate travel-size items to donate them to the Backpack Project. The Backpack Project strives to provide Baraboo School District students who are financially challenged to enter the school doors on the first day ‘just like everyone else’ and to show these children the community supports and encourages them to learn and do their best. If interested in donating towards this project, please contact Becky Hovde at 608-963-8230 or Hivebiz65@gmail.com.
 

Sexual Assault
  • I’m a Campus Sexual Assault Activist. It’s Time to Reimagine How We Punish Sex Crimes: “But people harmed by them have, by and large, only two options: They can try to have the perpetrator formally punished, or they can do nothing. The process of reporting formally is important to many survivors and must be protected; we know, however, that a vast majority of people will not choose this path. And all survivors — regardless of whether a report is filed or a harm-doer is exposed — deserve justice, healing and trust…Black survivors, who are often reticent to report sexual assaults to the same officers who criminalize their family and friends, and Native American survivors, who are often barred from pressing criminal charges against non-Native perpetrators in tribal courts, have long argued for alternatives. Tarana Burke, founder of the #MeToo movement, echoed this sentiment to me last week, declaring, ‘It’s time to turn this ship around’”…Read more
  • Here’s What HR Leaders Are Saying About Sexual Harassment: “But at this year’s meeting, HR leaders faced an unavoidable urgency to plan for what comes after the country’s sexual harassment reckoning. Since last fall, HR departments have found themselves slammed for failing to take action against egregious harassment and now are under pressure to show the profession can take prevention seriously. That’ll mean breaking old patterns by trading generic anti-harassment training for more innovative programs, earning employees’ trust, and convincing corporate leaders — who are overwhelmingly male — that keeping high-earning ‘rock stars’ who misbehave often ends up costing companies money”…Read more​
  • Commentary: Sexual Assault Is Not ‘Inappropriate Behavior.’ It’s Sexual Assault.: “‘Inappropriate sexual behavior’ and ‘sexual misconduct’ don’t even come close to precisely describing the accusations against these men. We need to realize that tiptoeing around precise language when describing criminal sexual acts doesn’t just shirk responsibility, it perpetuates the problem”…Read more
  • Terry Crews Is Not Going Down Without A Fight: “Five days after the New York Times published a bombshell report on allegations of sexual harassment and assault against Harvey Weinstein, and five days before the #MeToo movement found new energy, Crews took a moment between shooting scenes at work to send a series of tweets detailing his own experience allegedly being groped by a powerful Hollywood agent…In one of his initial tweets about his assault, Crews wrote about the fear that drives so many victims stay silent, especially in Hollywood. ‘Who is going 2 believe you? (few) What r the repercussions? (many) Do u want 2 work again? (Yes) R you prepared 2 be ostracized? (No).’”…Read more
  • We need to talk about sexual assault in marriage: “Submitting to sex with a man who knew it was unwanted, who knew I felt deep pain at our lack of emotional connection, and who knew — who had been clearly told — that it felt like a violation, broke something in me. Knowing that he could still enjoy and feel emotionally fulfilled by that unwanted sex shattered my idea of our marriage. I felt like a sex doll. I felt unselfed. But I blamed myself. I was the one whose desire was ‘deficient,’ according to my husband and our sex-obsessed culture”…Read more
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  • ​For Women Behind The Camera, Sexual Harassment Is Part Of The Job: “These women spanned departments ― from production assistants to cinematographers, set dressers to makeup artists ― but together their stories painted a picture of an industry that is at best passively uninviting and at worst openly hostile to women, especially those who are just beginning to build their careers. These women are not Hollywood heavyweights, but they, too, are ready for a cultural reckoning in their workplaces”…Read more
  • Aly Raisman Is Not OK With Banning Gymnastics Leotards To Prevent Abuse: “‘I was recently asked if gymnasts should continue wearing leotards,’ she tweeted. ‘Leotards [are] not the problem. The problem is the many pedophiles out there & the adults who enable them. By saying clothing is part of the issue, [you] are victim shaming/implying survivors should feel it’s their fault’…Rasiman directed her Twitter followers to her recent campaign Flip the Switch to learn more about victim shaming and how to prevent child sexual abuse”…Read more​
  • I’m a female chef. Here’s how my restaurant dealt with harassment from customers: “When a staff member has a harassment problem, they report the color — ‘I have an orange at table five’ — and the manager is required to take a specific action. If red is reported, the customer is ejected from the restaurant. Orange means the manager takes over the table. With a yellow, the manager must take over the table if the staff member chooses. In all cases, the manager’s response is automatic, no questions asked. (At the time of our meeting, all our shift managers were men, though their supervisors were women; something else we’ve achieved since then is diversifying each layer of management.)”…Read more
  • Foul Play: Shining a light on the dark, hidden world of sexualized hazing in high school athletics: “‘Typically I find something that I call the ‘second hazing,’  Lipkins says, ‘where once it’s reported, the community, 85 percent of them, support the perpetrators. There’s an overwhelming push to maintain the status quo and say, ‘It wasn’t that bad. You’re just being a wuss. What goes on in the locker room stays in the locker room. Why did you have to report it?’ If it sounds small-town-obsessed-with-sports stereotypical, it’s real. ‘I actually lived in the community where this happened in New York several years ago,’ McPherson says in reference to the Mepham case. ‘It divided the community in a very bizarre, and I would go so far as to say, a very sadistic way where the victims became the pariahs in the community. They were the ones being blamed for the football season being canceled’”…Read more​

 

Domestic Violence
  • Rihanna Protests Ad on Snapchat That Mocks Domestic Violence: “Snapchat users noticed an ad that asked whether they would rather ‘slap Rihanna’ or ‘punch Chris Brown.’ On Thursday, the pop star took to Instagram, a direct competitor for Snapchat, to criticize the ad for making light of domestic violence. Stock prices for Snap Inc., the parent company of Snapchat, sank by 4 percent”…Read more
  • There’s Nothing Romantic About Love Bombing: “‘Things like saying, ‘I think I might be falling in love with you,’ or ‘I want to take you to Paris this weekend’ or ‘Here’s a $200 bottle of perfume’ on the first date,’ Virginia Gilbert, a marriage and family therapist who specializes in high-conflict divorce, told HuffPost. ‘The gestures imply a level of commitment that’s out of proportion to the length of time two people have known each other’…‘Love bombing, unlike real love, is a self-centered, anxious pursuit, with the singular goal of acquiring someone because it boosts the bomber’s ego,’ Craig Malkin, clinical psychologist and author of Rethinking Narcissism, told HuffPost. ‘It’s not about care or compassion or tenderness. For the love bomber, you’re no different than a shiny new toy that captures their attention for the moment’”…Read more
  • Teen Dating Violence Is an Indicator of Gun Violence: “This behavior on the part of Cruz and Rollins is part of a much larger and systemic issue that's not getting as much attention: teen dating violence. And more importantly, would the U.S. be able to partially prevent violent incidents like mass shooting if signs of teen dating violence, especially violence against women, was taken more seriously?”…Read more
 

Miscellaneous News
  • How to Raise a Boy: “‘Many fathers emphasize competition and achievement with their boys,’ he said. ‘How much emphasis is put on compassion?’ ‘One thing we still manufacture in the United States is media,’ Susan McPherson, a communications consultant, said. ‘Can we show men in a more compassionate way?’ ‘PAW Patrol’ doesn’t really explore emotional development,’ Simon Isaacs, Fatherly’s chief content officer, said. Esther Perel, a Belgian couples counsellor and ted Talks star, saw a bigger problem: ‘the fragility of male identity.’ She said, ‘When we make a girl play with a truck, we don’t think it’s going to make her less of a girl. But, when we think of a boy playing with a doll, we think it’s going to weaken his essence as a man.’ The room murmured in agreement. ‘There’s this photo book for girls, ‘Strong Is the New Pretty,’ but there’s no ‘Soft Is the New Handsome,’”…Read more
 

Parents' & Youth Service Providers' Section​
  • Free Webinar on April 4 from 1-2:30pm: Building Resilience and Preventing Child Sexual Abuse: “Join us to learn more about sources of resilience in children, responses and conditions that foster resilience and the relationship between protective factors and resilient children. Suggestions for what parents and caregivers can do to promote resilience in their children will also be offered”…Learn more
  • The Preventable Problem That Schools Ignore:  “Although a majority of high-school principals (57 percent) had assisted a teen dating-violence victim in the past two years, more than two-thirds of respondents (68 percent) said they lacked formal training, and a majority (62 percent) reported that teachers and staff in their schools hadn’t been recently trained, either. Less than a third (30 percent) posted information on teen dating violence that was easily available and accessible to students—posted in hallways or the cafeteria, for example—and just 35 percent specifically addressed dating abuse in their school’s violence-prevention policies”…Read more
  • Title IX and Sexual Assault: Take a look at this great two-page fact sheet from the National Women’s Law Center on Title IX and sexual assault. 
  • Free Kidpower Webinar: Appearance Bullying: How to Protect Yourself and Your Loved Ones: “The recording for Appearance Bullying: How to Protect Yourself and Your Loved Ones addresses the following topics: Understanding the fear of differences that leads to prejudice, Resisting Internalized oppression, Eight emotional safety techniques to protect your feelings from hurtful words and behavior, Setting boundaries with people you know, How to protect your children, Assertive Advocacy for yourself and others, Changing attitudes through bridges of understanding”…Watch it here and download the resources​
  • For Parents with High ACE Scores: "Self-regulation by adults is a first step to help kids self-regulate themselves. Kids do best when the adults around them have strong stress management skills…One of these is to make sure that when we make a mistake, we make a repair. The sooner you make a repair, the less likely it is that an unhappy memory will ‘stick.’ When you are wrong, and admit it, child’s fear center of the brain – amygdala – stops lighting up! It calms down, promoting resiliency. For example, if you over-react you might say, ‘I raised my voice and that might have scared you; I wish I hadn’t done that’”…Read more
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  • Aly Raisman Partners with Darkness to Light to Provide Immediate Training and Support to Gymnastics Community: All adults involved with youth sports can use Aly's special code FLIPTHESWITCH to access the online, evidence-based Stewards of Children, child sexual abuse prevention training, for free.
  • 5 Reasons You Don't Need to Worry About Kids and Social Media:  “From sexting to cyberbullying to FOMO, social media sure has its share of negatives. But, if it's all bad, how did 2,000 students protest their school system's budget cuts? How are teens leading the charge against cyberbullying? How did they organize a national school walkout day to protest gun laws? Easy: savvy use of social media. For a few years now, many teens have been saying that social media -- despite its flaws -- is mostly positive. And new research is shedding light on the good things that can happen when kids connect, share, and learn online”…Read more
  • Creating, Supporting, and Sustaining Trauma-Informed Schools: A System Framework: “The Schools Committee of the NCTSN has published Creating, Supporting, and Sustaining Trauma-Informed Schools: A System Framework, a 13-page organizational plan on transforming schools into trauma-informed educational centers. To achieve their primary mission of supporting students’ educational achievement, schools must be places where children feel safe, supported, and able to learn.”
  • The Road to Recovery: Supporting Children with Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities Who Have Experienced Trauma (IDD Toolkit) “is a training that provides an overview for providers on how to work with children and families who are living with intellectual and development disabilities who have experienced trauma. This Toolkit consists of a Facilitator Guide and a Participant Manual…*Please note: you must create a free account on the Learning Center in order to access the training.”

 

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Faith Communities' Section
#ChurchToo: Let's Talk About Change: “Join us [April 11 at 6:30pm] for a live online conversation about the impact of the #ChurchToo movement on faith communities. The stories from #ChurchToo are challenging many people's understanding of sexual harassment and abuse. Let's talk about how we address victim blaming, denial, cultural silencing, and religious roadblocks. How can we use this movement to create safer, more transparent spiritual communities?”…Learn more

​April 17: Trauma Stewardship Book Discussion: “As essential book for anyone in the 'helping professions.' Trauma Stewardship addresses the impact that secondary (vicarious) trauma has on those whose work or calling involves caring for those who are suffering…Join us online on April 17 to discuss Trauma Stewardship! Registration information to come. Participants include Dr. Sally MacNichol of CONNECT and Emily Cohen, MDiv., of FaithTrust Institute”…Learn more about this and other book club books here

 

Training & Resources
  • Workplaces Respond to Domestic & Sexual Violence: “The #MeToo and #TimesUp movements demonstrate the overdue need for employers to shift toward prevention and culture change to make safer, more respectful, and more equitable workplace environments in which all employees can thrive. In solidarity with these movements, Workplaces Respond is pleased to enhance its prevention-oriented resources to help employers, survivors, coworkers, and advocates change workplace culture to better prevent and respond to sexual harassment and violence. The new National Resource Hub interactive tools include: Referrals to supportive services and legal resources; Fact sheets and research on the prevalence and impacts of workplace sexual harassment and violence; Access to ‘Top Ten’ lists to help victims, employers, unions, and men address sexual harassment in the workplace; ‘Decision Trees’ to help guide victims and coworkers through important initial considerations when confronting sexual harassment in the workplace; Model Workplace Training modules that adopt cutting-edge adult learning approaches to shift the training paradigm away from liability prevention and toward workplace equity and accountability; and A ‘How-To’ guide to help employers develop workplace climate surveys in order to assess their workplace and employee’s experiences and needs”…Check it out here
  • 60 Minutes Episode: Treating Childhood Trauma: “Oprah Winfrey reports on how trauma plays a role in childhood development and what new methods are being used to help kids who have experienced it”…Watch it here
  • Free On-Demand Webinar: Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study: Identify, Intervene and Interrupt: “The ACE study is the largest study investigating the health and social effects of negative childhood experiences. Now that we have the research, what can we do about it? The cycle of violence, generational poverty and abuse, homelessness, substance abuse, incarceration, perpetration and victimization of violence are all related to ACE’s. Strategies such as identification and assessment, reducing risk and exposure and nurturing resiliency and skill building are effective interventions. Changing the negative course that many children are on is our best way to prevent abuse in future generations. This presentation will increase your knowledge of trauma and provide ways to work with children, families and communities to reduce the impact of trauma”…Watch it here
  • National Human Trafficking Hotline 2017 Statistics: The Polaris Project has published 2017 statistics from their National Human Trafficking Hotline. There’s a great fact sheet and Infographic that you can view here. 

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