April 2018 Community Education E-bulletin

4/1/2018

Welcome to the April 2018 edition of Hope House's Community Education E-bulletin!

TABLE OF CONTENTS:
1. Raising Awareness this April
2. Denim Day April 25
3. Hope House Donation Needs
4. Sexual Assault
5. Domestic Violence
6. Miscellaneous News
7. Parents' and Youth Service Providers' Section
8. Faith Communities' Section
9. Training & Resources

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) & Child Abuse Prevention Month
Want to know what Hope House is doing this April for Sexual Assault Awareness Month and Child Abuse Prevention Month? We're planning things like Denim Day (see below), Supporting Survivors Panel, SAAM-themed adult coloring pages at the River Arts Center, community displays and booths, proclamations and resolutions, poster distribution, radio PSAs, newspaper articles, school announcements, and more. Learn more here and on our Facebook page including ways you can get involved! Please visit the National Sexual Violence Resource Center's SAAM page to learn more about this year's theme, "Embrace Your Voice."

Wear Jeans with a Purpose on Denim Day, April 25
Join Hope House and a multitude of other agencies, schools, businesses, churches, and elected officials by participating in Denim Day on April 25. This international campaign started when a rapist was let free in his appeal case because the judges ruled that the woman’s jeans were so tight that she must’ve helped him get them off and thus, in the judges’ eyes, was giving consent. We ask that people wear jeans to show your support of survivors, to help end victim-blaming, and to raise awareness of what consent really looks like. In exchange for wearing jeans, employees could make a small donation to Hope House. If you’d like to participate in Denim Day, please let us know at 608-356-9123. We’d greatly appreciate it if you sent us a photo or tagged us on Facebook of your employees wearing jeans on April 25 so we can promote it on our Facebook page and e-bulletin. Thank you!

Hope House Donation Needs
Monetary donations are most needed. Individuals have the option of donating online. Please note that a portion of your online donation will go towards PayPal fees. Donations can be mailed to Hope House, P.O. Box 557, Baraboo, WI 53913. We also appreciate gas cards, gift cards (Walmart, Kwik Trip, Walgreens, Kohl’s), taxi vouchers from Baraboo Taxi, and used cell phones, iPods and iPads. Please note that we are not accepting used stuffed animals/plush toys, used toys, clothes (except for new sweatshirts and sweatpants), shoes, used books, furniture, TVs, bar soap, hats, scarves or travel-size bottles of shampoo, conditioner, or body wash. Current needs include the following:

Shelter Supplies: pillows, hand sanitizer, tissues
Food: milk, produce, bottled water
Baby Items: size 6 diapers
Cleaning Supplies: floor cleaner, toilet bowl cleaner, dishwasher detergent, disinfecting sprays/wipes
Kitchen: tall garbage bags
Program Supplies: whiteboard markers, highlighters, 2-pocket plastic folders
New Clothing for Adults and Children: new women's underwear (size 5-8), yoga pants (size medium and large)

Special Note about Travel-Size Items: We encourage those looking to donate travel-size items to donate them to the Backpack Project. The Backpack Project strives to provide Baraboo School District students who are financially challenged to enter the school doors on the first day ‘just like everyone else’ and to show these children the community supports and encourages them to learn and do their best. If interested in donating towards this project, please contact Becky Hovde at 608-963-8230 or Hivebiz65@gmail.com.

Sexual Assault

I’m a Campus Sexual Assault Activist. It’s Time to Reimagine How We Punish Sex Crimes: “But people harmed by them have, by and large, only two options: They can try to have the perpetrator formally punished, or they can do nothing. The process of reporting formally is important to many survivors and must be protected; we know, however, that a vast majority of people will not choose this path. And all survivors — regardless of whether a report is filed or a harm-doer is exposed — deserve justice, healing and trust…Black survivors, who are often reticent to report sexual assaults to the same officers who criminalize their family and friends, and Native American survivors, who are often barred from pressing criminal charges against non-Native perpetrators in tribal courts, have long argued for alternatives. Tarana Burke, founder of the #MeToo movement, echoed this sentiment to me last week, declaring, ‘It’s time to turn this ship around’”…Read more
Here’s What HR Leaders Are Saying About Sexual Harassment: “But at this year’s meeting, HR leaders faced an unavoidable urgency to plan for what comes after the country’s sexual harassment reckoning. Since last fall, HR departments have found themselves slammed for failing to take action against egregious harassment and now are under pressure to show the profession can take prevention seriously. That’ll mean breaking old patterns by trading generic anti-harassment training for more innovative programs, earning employees’ trust, and convincing corporate leaders — who are overwhelmingly male — that keeping high-earning ‘rock stars’ who misbehave often ends up costing companies money”…Read more
Commentary: Sexual Assault Is Not ‘Inappropriate Behavior.’ It’s Sexual Assault.: “‘Inappropriate sexual behavior’ and ‘sexual misconduct’ don’t even come close to precisely describing the accusations against these men. We need to realize that tiptoeing around precise language when describing criminal sexual acts doesn’t just shirk responsibility, it perpetuates the problem”…Read more
Terry Crews Is Not Going Down Without A Fight: “Five days after the New York Times published a bombshell report on allegations of sexual harassment and assault against Harvey Weinstein, and five days before the #MeToo movement found new energy, Crews took a moment between shooting scenes at work to send a series of tweets detailing his own experience allegedly being groped by a powerful Hollywood agent…In one of his initial tweets about his assault, Crews wrote about the fear that drives so many victims stay silent, especially in Hollywood. ‘Who is going 2 believe you? (few) What r the repercussions? (many) Do u want 2 work again? (Yes) R you prepared 2 be ostracized? (No).’”…Read more
We need to talk about sexual assault in marriage: “Submitting to sex with a man who knew it was unwanted, who knew I felt deep pain at our lack of emotional connection, and who knew — who had been clearly told — that it felt like a violation, broke something in me. Knowing that he could still enjoy and feel emotionally fulfilled by that unwanted sex shattered my idea of our marriage. I felt like a sex doll. I felt unselfed. But I blamed myself. I was the one whose desire was ‘deficient,’ according to my husband and our sex-obsessed culture”…Read more

For Women Behind The Camera, Sexual Harassment Is Part Of The Job: “These women spanned departments ― from production assistants to cinematographers, set dressers to makeup artists ― but together their stories painted a picture of an industry that is at best passively uninviting and at worst openly hostile to women, especially those who are just beginning to build their careers. These women are not Hollywood heavyweights, but they, too, are ready for a cultural reckoning in their workplaces”…Read more
Aly Raisman Is Not OK With Banning Gymnastics Leotards To Prevent Abuse: “‘I was recently asked if gymnasts should continue wearing leotards,’ she tweeted. ‘Leotards [are] not the problem. The problem is the many pedophiles out there & the adults who enable them. By saying clothing is part of the issue, [you] are victim shaming/implying survivors should feel it’s their fault’…Rasiman directed her Twitter followers to her recent campaign Flip the Switch to learn more about victim shaming and how to prevent child sexual abuse”…Read more
I’m a female chef. Here’s how my restaurant dealt with harassment from customers: “When a staff member has a harassment problem, they report the color — ‘I have an orange at table five’ — and the manager is required to take a specific action. If red is reported, the customer is ejected from the restaurant. Orange means the manager takes over the table. With a yellow, the manager must take over the table if the staff member chooses. In all cases, the manager’s response is automatic, no questions asked. (At the time of our meeting, all our shift managers were men, though their supervisors were women; something else we’ve achieved since then is diversifying each layer of management.)”…Read more
Foul Play: Shining a light on the dark, hidden world of sexualized hazing in high school athletics: “‘Typically I find something that I call the ‘second hazing,’ Lipkins says, ‘where once it’s reported, the community, 85 percent of them, support the perpetrators. There’s an overwhelming push to maintain the status quo and say, ‘It wasn’t that bad. You’re just being a wuss. What goes on in the locker room stays in the locker room. Why did you have to report it?’ If it sounds small-town-obsessed-with-sports stereotypical, it’s real. ‘I actually lived in the community where this happened in New York several years ago,’ McPherson says in reference to the Mepham case. ‘It divided the community in a very bizarre, and I would go so far as to say, a very sadistic way where the victims became the pariahs in the community. They were the ones being blamed for the football season being canceled’”…Read more

Domestic Violence

Rihanna Protests Ad on Snapchat That Mocks Domestic Violence: “Snapchat users noticed an ad that asked whether they would rather ‘slap Rihanna’ or ‘punch Chris Brown.’ On Thursday, the pop star took to Instagram, a direct competitor for Snapchat, to criticize the ad for making light of domestic violence. Stock prices for Snap Inc., the parent company of Snapchat, sank by 4 percent”…Read more
There’s Nothing Romantic About Love Bombing: “‘Things like saying, ‘I think I might be falling in love with you,’ or ‘I want to take you to Paris this weekend’ or ‘Here’s a $200 bottle of perfume’ on the first date,’ Virginia Gilbert, a marriage and family therapist who specializes in high-conflict divorce, told HuffPost. ‘The gestures imply a level of commitment that’s out of proportion to the length of time two people have known each other’…‘Love bombing, unlike real love, is a self-centered, anxious pursuit, with the singular goal of acquiring someone because it boosts the bomber’s ego,’ Craig Malkin, clinical psychologist and author of Rethinking Narcissism, told HuffPost. ‘It’s not about care or compassion or tenderness. For the love bomber, you’re no different than a shiny new toy that captures their attention for the moment’”…Read more
Teen Dating Violence Is an Indicator of Gun Violence: “This behavior on the part of Cruz and Rollins is part of a much larger and systemic issue that's not getting as much attention: teen dating violence. And more importantly, would the U.S. be able to partially prevent violent incidents like mass shooting if signs of teen dating violence, especially violence against women, was taken more seriously?”…Read more

Miscellaneous News

How to Raise a Boy: “‘Many fathers emphasize competition and achievement with their boys,’ he said. ‘How much emphasis is put on compassion?’ ‘One thing we still manufacture in the United States is media,’ Susan McPherson, a communications consultant, said. ‘Can we show men in a more compassionate way?’ ‘PAW Patrol’ doesn’t really explore emotional development,’ Simon Isaacs, Fatherly’s chief content officer, said. Esther Perel, a Belgian couples counsellor and ted Talks star, saw a bigger problem: ‘the fragility of male identity.’ She said, ‘When we make a girl play with a truck, we don’t think it’s going to make her less of a girl. But, when we think of a boy playing with a doll, we think it’s going to weaken his essence as a man.’ The room murmured in agreement. ‘There’s this photo book for girls, ‘Strong Is the New Pretty,’ but there’s no ‘Soft Is the New Handsome,’”…Read more

Parents' & Youth Service Providers' Section

Free Webinar on April 4 from 1-2:30pm: Building Resilience and Preventing Child Sexual Abuse: “Join us to learn more about sources of resilience in children, responses and conditions that foster resilience and the relationship between protective factors and resilient children. Suggestions for what parents and caregivers can do to promote resilience in their children will also be offered”…Learn more
The Preventable Problem That Schools Ignore: “Although a majority of high-school principals (57 percent) had assisted a teen dating-violence victim in the past two years, more than two-thirds of respondents (68 percent) said they lacked formal training, and a majority (62 percent) reported that teachers and staff in their schools hadn’t been recently trained, either. Less than a third (30 percent) posted information on teen dating violence that was easily available and accessible to students—posted in hallways or the cafeteria, for example—and just 35 percent specifically addressed dating abuse in their school’s violence-prevention policies”…Read more
Title IX and Sexual Assault: Take a look at this great two-page fact sheet from the National Women’s Law Center on Title IX and sexual assault.
Free Kidpower Webinar: Appearance Bullying: How to Protect Yourself and Your Loved Ones: “The recording for Appearance Bullying: How to Protect Yourself and Your Loved Ones addresses the following topics: Understanding the fear of differences that leads to prejudice, Resisting Internalized oppression, Eight emotional safety techniques to protect your feelings from hurtful words and behavior, Setting boundaries with people you know, How to protect your children, Assertive Advocacy for yourself and others, Changing attitudes through bridges of understanding”…Watch it here and download the resources
For Parents with High ACE Scores: "Self-regulation by adults is a first step to help kids self-regulate themselves. Kids do best when the adults around them have strong stress management skills…One of these is to make sure that when we make a mistake, we make a repair. The sooner you make a repair, the less likely it is that an unhappy memory will ‘stick.’ When you are wrong, and admit it, child’s fear center of the brain – amygdala – stops lighting up! It calms down, promoting resiliency. For example, if you over-react you might say, ‘I raised my voice and that might have scared you; I wish I hadn’t done that’”…Read more

Aly Raisman Partners with Darkness to Light to Provide Immediate Training and Support to Gymnastics Community: All adults involved with youth sports can use Aly's special code FLIPTHESWITCH to access the online, evidence-based Stewards of Children, child sexual abuse prevention training, for free.
5 Reasons You Don't Need to Worry About Kids and Social Media: “From sexting to cyberbullying to FOMO, social media sure has its share of negatives. But, if it's all bad, how did 2,000 students protest their school system's budget cuts? How are teens leading the charge against cyberbullying? How did they organize a national school walkout day to protest gun laws? Easy: savvy use of social media. For a few years now, many teens have been saying that social media -- despite its flaws -- is mostly positive. And new research is shedding light on the good things that can happen when kids connect, share, and learn online”…Read more
Creating, Supporting, and Sustaining Trauma-Informed Schools: A System Framework: “The Schools Committee of the NCTSN has published Creating, Supporting, and Sustaining Trauma-Informed Schools: A System Framework, a 13-page organizational plan on transforming schools into trauma-informed educational centers. To achieve their primary mission of supporting students’ educational achievement, schools must be places where children feel safe, supported, and able to learn.”
The Road to Recovery: Supporting Children with Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities Who Have Experienced Trauma (IDD Toolkit) “is a training that provides an overview for providers on how to work with children and families who are living with intellectual and development disabilities who have experienced trauma. This Toolkit consists of a Facilitator Guide and a Participant Manual…*Please note: you must create a free account on the Learning Center in order to access the training.”

Faith Communities' Section
#ChurchToo: Let's Talk About Change: “Join us [April 11 at 6:30pm] for a live online conversation about the impact of the #ChurchToo movement on faith communities. The stories from #ChurchToo are challenging many people's understanding of sexual harassment and abuse. Let's talk about how we address victim blaming, denial, cultural silencing, and religious roadblocks. How can we use this movement to create safer, more transparent spiritual communities?”…Learn more

April 17: Trauma Stewardship Book Discussion: “As essential book for anyone in the 'helping professions.' Trauma Stewardship addresses the impact that secondary (vicarious) trauma has on those whose work or calling involves caring for those who are suffering…Join us online on April 17 to discuss Trauma Stewardship! Registration information to come. Participants include Dr. Sally MacNichol of CONNECT and Emily Cohen, MDiv., of FaithTrust Institute”…Learn more about this and other book club books here

Training & Resources

Workplaces Respond to Domestic & Sexual Violence: “The #MeToo and #TimesUp movements demonstrate the overdue need for employers to shift toward prevention and culture change to make safer, more respectful, and more equitable workplace environments in which all employees can thrive. In solidarity with these movements, Workplaces Respond is pleased to enhance its prevention-oriented resources to help employers, survivors, coworkers, and advocates change workplace culture to better prevent and respond to sexual harassment and violence. The new National Resource Hub interactive tools include: Referrals to supportive services and legal resources; Fact sheets and research on the prevalence and impacts of workplace sexual harassment and violence; Access to ‘Top Ten’ lists to help victims, employers, unions, and men address sexual harassment in the workplace; ‘Decision Trees’ to help guide victims and coworkers through important initial considerations when confronting sexual harassment in the workplace; Model Workplace Training modules that adopt cutting-edge adult learning approaches to shift the training paradigm away from liability prevention and toward workplace equity and accountability; and A ‘How-To’ guide to help employers develop workplace climate surveys in order to assess their workplace and employee’s experiences and needs”…Check it out here
60 Minutes Episode: Treating Childhood Trauma: “Oprah Winfrey reports on how trauma plays a role in childhood development and what new methods are being used to help kids who have experienced it”…Watch it here
Free On-Demand Webinar: Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study: Identify, Intervene and Interrupt: “The ACE study is the largest study investigating the health and social effects of negative childhood experiences. Now that we have the research, what can we do about it? The cycle of violence, generational poverty and abuse, homelessness, substance abuse, incarceration, perpetration and victimization of violence are all related to ACE’s. Strategies such as identification and assessment, reducing risk and exposure and nurturing resiliency and skill building are effective interventions. Changing the negative course that many children are on is our best way to prevent abuse in future generations. This presentation will increase your knowledge of trauma and provide ways to work with children, families and communities to reduce the impact of trauma”…Watch it here
National Human Trafficking Hotline 2017 Statistics: The Polaris Project has published 2017 statistics from their National Human Trafficking Hotline. There’s a great fact sheet and Infographic that you can view here.

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